Before I go on typing my "inner" thoughts and talk about what I've learned, let met give you my background.

I'm a 23 year old Asian male that's 5'8". Originally from Oklahoma but then left the oh so boring state when I graduated HS and went into the Navy. I've been in 4 years and have 4 years left. I've experienced a lot and still have more to experience. The Navy has sent me from Oklahoma > Charleston for a year and half > Upstate NY for two and half years > now I'll be in Washington State for the next 4 years.

Quite frankly my dating life was a sham in HS and it has improved since then. I was cheated on when I was 17 and haven't been in a relationship since then. But, I've been on a lot of dates and been through a shit ton more missed opportunities. Many heartaches but very constructive.

There has been a lot of discussion of Asian males having trouble in the field and I'd like to give a little bit of my input.

What I've observed from being "Asian" isn't a down fall nor is it a upgrade. It's just what it is. You can't go your entire life denying what you know you are. ( I think there were to many you's in that sentence.) This goes for any race.

Every time I've left the house for any reason, I don't think about how 'Asian' I am. I just don't care and I don't even think about it until someone makes a joke about it. That's my opinion on the matter. Stop caring so much how ethnic you are and putting yourself down because you think your morals, beliefs, and ethnicity negatively affect how you interact with girls. Make it part of your interaction.

But I do enjoy embarrassing my friend by loudly expressing how small my penis is. Everyone always has a good laugh with that.


I did learn after countless dates and interactions was to find where my comfort zone with girls. I discovered that from my own family. As the baby brother, I've always been the lending ear for anyone to express their feelings to. So with that, I started doing that with girls and that alone drastically improved my game.

One thing about Asian families is that they don't normally have one kid so it shouldn't be hard. All ethnicities should try this. Be wary, it's not a for sure thing but I would definitely consider your role in your family and work that role into your game. If it doesn't work, it'll further your self improvement. Win-win they say.

Sorry for such a long post but I'm all ears y'alls opinion. (that's a lil bit of my Okie side). What are your thoughts?

Thanks

It's interesting how being Asian is largely considered a disadvantage with white women, but I've seen and known plenty of Asian guys that are beasts when it comes to getting girls and they would likely laugh at the idea of it. I would say perhaps on paper it's a disadvantage in the same way being short is (I'm only 5'6") however in person, face to face with the woman if the man believes in himself and knows all that is bullshit, it comes through to her. And that will flip those switches and she will stop caring about whatever arbitrary trait she has been told is unattractive. We have to remember that ultimately our behavior is what really attracts the woman.
And the few women that won't date Asian guys or short guys no matter what, well fuck 'em. They do us all a favor by "rejecting" us because they are lame people.

Honestly, try not to be a victim of stereotypes for just one moment and think about this
fact:

Tall blonde women are considered to be most attractive right...but then why on tests guys
always pick the shorter, petite looking dark haired cuties?

Social stereotypes are one thing, reality is something else. Girls may not "like" Asian guys,
but then see a cute asian guy and fall for him - even though he's Asian.

It's your presence, your energy, your power, your look in the eyes that turns women on...not your
race.

There is one thing that you are before everything - you are a MAN. And as a man, you are sexually
attractive to all women, no matter what they socially are talking about your race.

So let go of that stuff, realize that it's you who will be creating attraction with a woman
that you want to meet...and if you know how to turn women on, it doesn't matter what
your race is. You're a man, and that's what counts.

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