Hello, I m graduate student. Im 23. I have never in a relationship. Lost my virginity at 22. After losing virginity, i realized the difference between physical and emotional attraction much more clearly. It was in my undergrad that I had made the basic CHUMP making mistakes. But over the years I ve become proficient in my conversation such as negs ans canned openers and natural game. My game has taken me as far as kissing or some kino. Im usually good at picking basic body signals but not to progress to something intimate

So my main issue is I met a girl in 2012 at a friend's college. I was there to meet my buddies. He introduced me to girl he was pursing at the time. I wasnt at all interested for obvious reasons and she didnt appeal to me. Our first encounter was argumentative discussing political matters. She was a communist. My buddies purposely ditched me noticing that i could go somewhere with this chick. (yes,it was wrong to take his target but he gave up to easily and decided not to tag along). we both parted and she requested my number. Never saw her again until next year of spring 2012 where i happen to visit my buddy at the college again. I met her again. She didint rmbr me or so as she had said. Three of us headed out to a diner. There once more about politics. According to my poor buddy, i she had taken some sort of submissiveness to me that he hadnt noticed she had done to others. I shrugged it off and moved on. The third encounter was when she randomly invited me to her halloween party. The thing was i lost her number and she texted me rmbring who i was. At the party, she hugged me very enthusaictically at first sight but not another buddy she also knew. She was not single and i saw her smoochin with some random guy. I didnt care much. but i did notice she would come randomly over to me and brush my hair. I thought she was drunk and i still didnt care. toward the end of the party she had noticed i and my buddy had left with two girls. Follwing the party there were series of meet ups with her comrades and peers at her place to have dinner. For the longest time, I saw her as nothing but a friend. But things took a turn when she invited me to take her to a german beer place. I took her out after she kept putting it off for awhile. Mind u she is not a fan of beer which i found later but she grew fond of the german beer. during the hangout we discussed things very openly her guards down. at one point i was reading her palms and we locked our hands. at that point i should have made my move to kiss her. But i didnt.

Essentially in the upcoming months of 2013..i had fallen her and i wanted to kill the this feeling by purposely telling her directly abt my feelings and getting rejected. I was happy when she rejected me. But the thing was I told her we could just b friends and she immediatel had said " We not just gonna be friends but friends"...what does this all mean??? ANyways i avoided her for some months. she would occasionally text and id ignore her. But it was when i came back from aussie trip that i noticed she left a text for me saying "i dont know if ur back or not, thought i d get u on the am" . I ignored once more.

READ THIS TO GET TO THE POINT/SKIP TO THIS ===> during the remainder of the summer and now i tried pursing her and she would send me mixed signals. We would bicker like couples and sometimes do kino. I havent found the opportunity to kiss her as of yet.

Listen this is some crazy girl with broken family issues and her last boyfriend was abusive. Several guys went for that are now her friends but they are not close though. Her best friend told me the best thing is sit tight and give some space. My feelings for her strong. But its not like i dont date or chat up with other girls. I keep my options open, But i enjoy my time with her especially. The flip side is my confidence is down sometimes and i get insecure time to time SO the thing is how do I maintain confidence and be apart from the rest of guy friends? And i was warned by her best friend that i shouldnt kiss her cuz she is emotionally tryin to get over her ex? Tell me what u think..I know i should have been to the point on the forum. But im just in my emotional helpless episode at the moment.