Quote:
About time I post something in here.
Here are a few thoughts:
The most important part of reading this kind of text is unterstanding the messege comming from the topic starter. To me, this is philosophy, it`ll fit perfectly into a philosophy section on the forum.
Why, you ask?
Because this is something you want to read when you have a desire to stablish some ground rules to yourself, this is where you go to when you need some principles to rule your character. What I`m saying here that Core Values of a Man is a man`s point of view on living life; therefore valid as any other guy would.
Second of all, it is indeed a good topic, I don`t care if there are some general stuff, I might aswell give it my own interpretation of the words.
In life there isn`t black or white, the more I grow old, the more I realize this is a huge grey area.
Personally, I`d like to read more about becoming a real man and less about Fin and lawls arguing about perspectives; all I want to do is open my eyes and learn, focus plays a great part in here.
So that might be a good question: how to regain focus? Can you elaborate on the topic? Is focus a main characteristic of a male?
Answers to questions asked:
1) Breathe
2) No it isn't, it is the knob to opening the door.
Topic elaboration:
Mentally, you can do various exercises to "regain" focus- everyone has thier own methods. The MOST basic one I can recommend is focus on your breathe- particularly diaphragmatic breathing since it stimulates the para-sympathetic system. This in turn has you "calm" down, and cycles your breathe more evenly and slowly- further it distributes oxygen in your body more evenly (since your inhaling deeper). If your calm..your can then focus.
As to how come focus isn't a characteristic "trait" of a man. Well..everyone has the ability to focus- no matter the sex. Females have more peripheral focus (multi-tasking), males have more singular. Those are brought by biological and social needs. Ideally, as a "complete" person one could choose between both focuses depending on the "context/situation", or even choose between a varying mixes of both.
Eg) Your talking to a female...you have very singular focus. Great-she feels special. Next step, singular focus combine with environmental awareness. Your totally focused on her and yet aware of everything in your environment (to a fuller or lesser degree), next step: multiple singular focuses--> as the name states keeping track of multiple things while having the same degree of singular focus as you would with one.
With the above example, you start to see how focus becomes practical. Now imagine yourself in a situation if someone did that to you. With any one of the examples. How would you feel?
So going back to topic, no...focus is not a "trait" of a man, its a "trait" of someone (regardless of sex) who working on themselves. That said, being a "man" you usually have at least 1 focus under your belt. Since, that "focus" doesn't just apply to one's external environment but also internal.
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