Hey Guys,

I don't really know what to do, we have a social circle that never really changes, which has one 2 of my old f-buddys in it, I have lost my confidence in my ability to attract women, I'm 22 and go out to university clubs about once or twice a week. About 2 weeks ago I got over approach anxiety about 80% but I can't lead the conversation anywhere that makes them attracted to me. I don't like canned openers because they're not congruent with my personality, and recently I have even thought about just getting into a relationship with one of my old f-buddies just because I am that lonely, which I know is a mistake. I have friends and a good number of them and enjoy their company, but it just seems like I won't be able to find anyone new. My best mate is a natural and I feel like even though I am more attractive than him, he always manages to build more attraction than I can.

Any advice would be great, I ovbiously don't want to get into something with my old f-buddy even though we get along really well, I know I can do better and want to find a way to bring more girls home/into our social circle.

Thanks,

Jake

I am not suggesting you change who you are but maybe expand your horizons. You said the canned openers are not who you are yet a lot of the openers represent the kind of personality that is successful with attracting women. Find something that inspires you to expand your general presumptions. Good Luck!

Not enough DHV. If you are decent looking, can open a set, but can't get them hooked, then you lack DHV. Quite simply, you are not showing them that you are cool enough or have enough to offer them compared to other guys.

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I have exact same story..My best friend is a natural,but the reason he's good is because he's handsome..and this is what girls told me about him..he does every AFC thing but is successful with girls..for example he starts bragging about his work(he works hair dresser)and girls will smile to him.On the other hand,if I brag about my work(diamond setter)they would immediately leave.Last time I was with a girl trying to kiss her and he comes ,so I introduced him he said hi and offered a cigarette .she told him she has so he told her to smoke from his mouth and so he kissed her ...I was angry from him for 1 week but now Im ok with it because he doesnt mean what he does..sorry cause my reply isn't helpfull..