I have my personal rules such as:
1) Always let the girl know where she stands right off the bat 'Im not bf material'
2) See each girl between 2-3 times a week. (sufficient time but not too much)
3) Not talk about other girls to them as that is too direct and real and from experience causes negative vibes (subtly be a wanted man).

They are my only three and other areas are fuzzy as to whats ok bearing in mind i have no intention of wanting to turn any of them into gf as of now, as i plan to travel in about 9months.

I Just want a few more opinions on MLTR rules.

Im in unknown territory right now. My question is on how to treat MLTR's?

Areas I'm look for opinions on are:
1) After you have just been chilling at each others having sex for a good few months is it cool to take her to for a meal? - I did this because i wanted to eat at this place and she was fun so i brought her along. Also took her out to the zoo, pretty chill and a good day. My afterthoughts were maybe I'm starting to send the wrong signs?
2) Do you talk about future plans? such as 'at Christmas I'm going to get you to make me SO many mince pies!!' if she brings up future hints like that should what would your response be?
3) When I see them start to become quite emotionally involved i personally start to back off and not want to text them as i don't want to lead them on. is this cool?

Ive just had a few girls in the past start to say 'as if this is just casual! you know its more than that' and enough have said it that I have started to question my method and even morals, this has caused me just to be a bit stand-offish and have blurred rules about what I feel good doing and talking about with them.

Also feel free to answer any questions I haven't asked. Just want to know from you guys experience what is ok and not ok in your opinion? Need some clarity on the matter.

I feel my rules are good and fair. But I'm starting to feel like Slevin Kelevra from lucky number slevin as the Rabbi says to him "The first time someone calls you a horse you punch him on the nose, the second time someone calls you a horse you call him a jerk but the third time someone calls you a horse, well then perhaps it's time to go shopping for a saddle."

Hope this makes sense, I've tried to be authentic, just ask if you need any clarity.

am i posting in the wrong section or does no one have that much advise to give on this?