Guys, i have practicing these pua methods and adopting the thinking for quite a long while now. But however when i sent out a text and the girl has low receptive level or screwing things up sometimes, i still feel shity as always. this is the part that i still cant fix it straight to make it a feeling of "no big deal" no matter what. I feel really bad about it, about having low response, saying the wrong things, and myself for even caring. Any advise?

Well..PU doesn't talk about working on yourself typically, its mostly a band-aid approach. If your feeling those things and are getting low results- it says 1 thing, get yourself in order. There is one common denominator for everything YOU. That said, different people do different things- however being in the "inner" side of things- my take is- take out the externals, start working the internals.

Overall, external factors are your "baseline" to if your successful or not (given the conditions you chose). However, external results are the ropes to show your internal reality. So..if your not getting what your going for- you need to take a look at yourself why. Yes, you can do that with lines etc- however it doesn't get to the core issues which still linger- and depending exaggerate the issues more.

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The above link is a starting guide to start on the process. By no means is it a book nor is it a end all be all, its just a starting block.

It sounds like your underlying problem is that you really care about what a girl thinks about you. You care if you fail, and if you "screw up".

There is no quick fix solution for this. Instead, realize that you can choose how to feel about something. If I buy a cheescake tomorow, I can either be excited about it because it will taste delicious, or I can be annoyed because it is going to fuck with my washboard abs (lol j/k, my abs are like a ninja - they're there, but you just can't bloody see them!). But if I hold that cheesecake in my hand, I can literally choose which I want to feel. And I can feel one, and then choose to feel the other.

You feelings are a conscious choice. Sure, it's not totally easy to just choose to change your emotion towards something, but it can be done. And this is what you need to do. Realize that there is no reason for you feel down and upset about these things. Just choose.

Here is an exercise for you:

1. take a pen and write how you feel when you don't get a great response / she doesn't reply / whatever
2. Write the mindset and attitude you want to have instead when that situation happens.
3. Write down the logical reasons why the mindset you want to have, is the truth.
4. When the situation happens, force yourself into the good mindset.

And good luck

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Thanks guys. I'll work on it!

The truth is that a lack of resutls gets interpreted as failure. And failure results in a lack of confidence. This happens to a lot of people, it's very normal. You need to develop a proper perspective in order to overcome this, otherwise it will continue to weaken your inner game and the results will never come.

Someone once told me that not everyone will like you. Seems simplistic, I know. I've realized that sometimes you can never say the right things, no matter what you say. So how can you expect to impress everyone you meet if some of them will never like you no matter who you are or what you say?

The answer is that you can't. But what you can do is learn from your mistakes and work on correcting them. You need to be self-correcting and capable of identifying flaws in your game. This won't make you a perfect pua, but it WILL make you a better one. And that's all we can ever shoot for in pickup--becoming BETTER.

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All of the above is true and correct.

I would add that you appear fully aware of your issue, so that means you can improve or fix it. Nobody is happy when they exert an effort and don't realize the result they aimed for. Your goal should be to focus not on the rejection, but on understanding why it occurred. At some point, when your inner game is at it's best, the rejection will not hurt because you will believe and know that you did everything right, and despite saying the right thing, to the right girl, the right way, it was just the wrong time.

If you want proof, I can personally attest to "striking out" or getting rejected by one girl before, and then having success with the same girl later. 3 weeks later, same place, same girl, different result. She approached me, and apologized for rejecting me before and being a bitch. I told her she wasn't a bitch, that if she wasn't interested at the time, she did the right thing saying so. She proceeded to explain that she had broken up recently, was just out with friends trying to have fun and mend the heartbreak, and wasn't emotionally in a good place that night. When I had approached her that night she actually realized that she wasn't ready to even think about another guy, let alone talk to one or more. 3 weeks later, she was feeling better, moving on, and we actually had a great night together. And in all honesty, if she was in the state she said she was in 3 weeks prior, I would have wanted no part of it anyways.

Just focus on making sure you present your best self, and if you know you've done that, there is no reason to hurt or feel rejected, because the loss is hers, not yours.

Hope this helps.