Now if you were like what I was, a massive chode, you can probably empathise with me.

I'm still developing and though I'm getting there, I'm still not getting laid. So to help, I'm cutting down porn use and masturbation completely to help fuel my sex drive.


Anyone know any good ways to go about this?

Ninja

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Yes do something else. try and keep ur mind occupied with something else. Even video games is better. Whenever u feel like wanking go to the gym or go outside go meet your friends. Anything but keep ur mind occupied with something else

Working out, extra cardio.

Porn is an addiction like any other. All addictions can be broken with a 12 step program.

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I, like pretty much everyone, used to wank to porn. Now I don't wank, at all.

What I did was to set a certain amount of time to abstain for, and then achieve it. It helps to write the goal down and sign it. First a week, then 2 weeks and a month. You just have to accept that it's not going to be easy... you will get frustrated, but as long as you've written it down and signed it you have no other choice but to go through with it.

Find other things to occupy yourself with, preferrably away from the computer. Being around other people helps. If you get horny put yourself around women and realise that the only way you're going to blow your load is if you do something courageous.

Eventually even if you don't get laid within a certain amount of time you will at least have a wet dream to take just enough pressure off.

Cheers dude, that really helped unfortunately I'm not getting laid consistently enough, hence the porn use. I only lost my virginity in June (I'm 20) and haven't actually had proper sexual intercourse since then (have been sexual with other girls though)

It's like saying 'you can only blow your load when your with a woman' lol

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Cool, good luck man.

If you read the enlightened sex manual by Deida David he will share techniques so that you can wank and not cum and even have sex and not cum, well not blow your load anyway. The jist is don't tense up, make sure you breathe deeply letting the air fill your body all the way down to your groin if that where the pressure is and tense your gooch as you breathe out it relieves the pressure of wanting to cum and gives a pleasurable feeling up your spine.

It takes practice and training and i haven't mastered it but i did see some results, kind of an internal orgasm for men.

Is this just a sophisticated form of edging the cumming sensation?

I thought going no fap also meant no edging?

my bad souvenir, I haven't heard of the terms fap or edging. Its basically a technique that when mastered allows to have sex, the feeling if cuming, but not actually blow your load, so you are ready to go again straight after.

Are you really an addict? Or is it just something you want to give up for a short period of time that you can control on your own?

If you can quit on your own for a long period of time (say 3 months) you are not an addict. If you can't you're an addict. Also keep in mind, am I in control of this or is it in control of me. If you're not the one making decisions you're addicted.

If it's that bad do what pua ninja said and get in a 12 step program. Porn and sex addictions are as hard to break as heroin addictions. If you don't fit that criteria then you don't need a 12 step. Do everything else mentioned here and you will be able to have success because for you it's about will power.

I did a 12 step myself. I was really religious most of my life. I decided to not have sex at all. No fap, no porn, no sex. The only time I was successful was in the 12 step. I relapsed at one point because I quit the 12 step, but when I went back I got clean again.

If you're serious about this get an accountability partner (through the 12 step program) and get some porn blocking software that reports to that accountability partner. That helped me alot. I had 3 accountability partners: my dad (I was living with him at the time, and he was the reason I quit), one of my pastors, and my sponsor from my 12 step program.

That was just enough positive peer pressure to keep me from going to porn- not enough to keep me from fapping completely, but the amount of fapping went from like 5x a day down to once every 3 days. The longest I ever went was 3 weeks. I felt like fucking super man! If I kept up with it I know I wouldn't be fapping today... but I wouldn't be having sex either because it was a Christian 12 step.

So... yeah....there's secular 12 steps as well, but now that I'm no longer a Christian I don't really have any desire to go. Like I said before I'm not religious anymore. I had a crisis of faith about 3 years ago, so now I guess you could say I'm more of an agnostic, or you could say spiritual but not religious. I no longer hold to the no fap no porn thing, but I avoid it as much as possible because it will reduce your sex drive and keep you from getting laid. I say if you can't quit fapping, at least quit porn. it will make the desire to fap alot weaker and you'll do it alot less.

Also, the fapping without cuming thing is real and it's a great thing to learn. It is possible to have sex or fap, and have an orgasm without blowing a load It won't help you lower your sex drive, but it's great to know so you never have premature ejaculation. You can pretty much fucking go forever.

I've done it many times. It's fun for a while solo, but then you get bored and just want to blow a load, so it kind of defeats the purpose for raising your sex drive. Even if you never give in and actually blow a load you will still be giving yourself orgasms every time and that will lower your desire for sex. The only difference is you will still have a stiff dick, blue balls and it's going to be annoying as hell but you won't feel as much of a need to relieve it. Save it for real sex if no fap is the route you want to go.

Good luck man.

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Okay no, I'm not an addict... but I do have a little problem with it...

Shouldn't be a problem, Pokemon Black 2 is out in the UK so just I'm far too busy battling Pokeymanz lol

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