Hey guys I just came to a very important realization. I have no game without alchohol. See, I love night game, and I go out partying 3 nights a week. This is where you get drunk with friends, have a blast and yes interact with women. However, this isnt game. This is partying and I guess I mixed the two up.

Today morning though, I was hanging for lunch with my friends and one of them brought a really cute girl. I had NO game. I was shy, nervous, trying to force alpha body language, ect ect. I have gotten girls of her caliber before while out drinking, but I truly was insanely inside my head.

This made me realize that ever since I learned PUA, Ive ALWAYS been inside my own head except when I get tipsy or drunk. I guess the two reasons this could be happening are that firstly, Ive been drinking too much and therefore maybe Im slightly addicted and therefore im struggling to feel "normal" without alchohol. Or its just how I am and its harder to me to get out of my head than most people.

So if everyone can chip in and post a few inner and outer game tricks or tips or lifestyle choices that can help with getting out of your head.

A few I have are:
1) Dont drink too often (in my case stop for atleast a few months)
2) Exercise
3) Eat healthy, get all your nutrients, stay hydrated
4) Meditate 15 mins a day
5) Get good quality sleep
6) Dont spend too much time idle. Always be putting your time to good use.
7) Do what you really want all the time. Dont think. Just do.

Im going to very religously put all these things into practise starting tomorrow, will report the results. Anything I can add on to this list?

Well alcohol is called liquid courage for a reason. I don't think your addicted but I do think you have alcohol psychosis. I also think that list is great. However I think it's important to push your self to break down the mental barrier that your not fun without drinking. I live in my head and I can turn it on when needed. You just have to flip the switch.

Interesting post mate. I would have to agree. But how do you "flip the switch"? is there a technique you use or just experience?

Also what is alchohol psychosis?

hey man,

why is it you feel you are going inside your head? (what would you say the reason is?)

are you always like this?, or is it only in certain situations, with certain people?

could you explain your problem a little more thoroughly?

Hey mate, I think the reason is a combination of nervousness, too used to gaming on alchohol and worrying about the past and future (which is crazy cause my life is really going quite possitively).

Id say I'm like this around most people. Apart from really close friends (female and male), family and people who are clearly below my social status (like I dont get in my head talking to the guy at the mcdonalds counter or the really really AFC guy at the club or an UG).

Ofcourse if its a rough open ill jump into my head at once.

have you ever tried going to a great length to put more social pressure on yourself to the point of fear?

you could try to go out and find your comfort zone in regards to social anxiety, and then push it,

-extreme peacocking, don't know where you live but at the dollar stores around here you can get all kinds of stuff for this, leprechaun hats, cowbow hats, pink trucker hat that says sexy, sunglasses, fake mustaches, mardi gras beads, cap guns, plastic knight sets, try to make yourself look as ridiculous as possible so you actually feel uncomfortable, then start talking to people

-blow out sets, just try to get rejected, plenty of fun ways you can come up with to try to do this, keep telling muscle jokes and segway from each one to the next with, ohhhh yeah, you like that one? you like that one? well how about this one... keep going until you run out of jokes, you can open with ''no one likes me, can you just reject me'', open a set with the rules of you can only say 3 words every time you talk until someone else talks, make linear compliance ladder, try to run the whole ladder in to making out in under 5 minutes

-public displays of behavior that lead to higher social pressure, do weird shit that makes you stand out so you feel uncomfortable, sing in public, hump inanimate objects, walk around for a while and pretend you are mentally handicapped, put on some shitty clothes and crawl up and down a street, dance around by yourself in a public place with no music, walk around and just pick a subject to talk to yourself about loudly then start shouting it out ''TODAY IS A GREAT DAY, WOW WHAT AN AWESOME DAY, THE SUN IS SO BRIGHT TODAY, LET ME TELL YA, GOOD DAY, NEVER WAS THERE A MORE AWESOME DAY''

-honesty with girls you find extremely hot, walk around in a spot with alot of women, find a girl that intimidates you, walk up to her and be fully and absolutely honest for the whole set, don't leave until she rejects you, start with letting her know why you approached her (you find her sexually attractive), how you word it, and how you communicate is up to you, but pick the most intimidating girl you can possibly find and absolutely don't leave until she makes it absolutely clear that she wants you to leave her alone, don't try to be funny, or be cool, or be witty, or do anything, if you come off that way, great, but don't try to be anything at all besides honest

really really test your comfort zone so that it moves, the harder and more socially anxious the task makes you, the more you will see an improvement after you face your fears, other then that your list in the first post has some good ideas too

I have found that THE most useful thing I have done to get out of my head is to alter my self-image.

I ask myself what I would ideally like to be like.

"I am someone who talks to every person, without inhibition, embarrassment or fear of what anyone might think. I am calm and confident when I talk to women, beautiful or ugly. I have nothing to hide, nothing to be ashamed of. I am a man who enjoys being himself, and sharing who I am and what I have to say without restraints, remorse, guilt or insecurity of any kind"

As I go through these affirmations, I will notice that several conflicting thoughts arise, such as: "That's not true because what I have to say is lame. No one cares to hear it". It is then that I notice I have a negative belief about myself. Then I ask myself why did I begin to believe this? Why do I believe what I have to say is not cool? And from there, realize that this belief (as with every belief), is nothing but a generalization, and not an absolute truth. There can be many people who find my shit interesting. There can be different times when different people can find what I say to be good and worthwhile. Maybe in the past what I had to say was lame, but not always. Maybe I can learn to be more interesting. etcetera etcetera.

The point is, we as humans have an infinite potential to be anything, and that includes, being the best self you can be, being exactly the type of man you want to be. And you can be it, if you change who you think you are.