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Ok IVE ALWAYS had these problems and wondering how I can be rid of them. Basically I am not comfortable in my own skin. I never feel comfortable even walking in public. If I feel bloated, or look in the mirror and feel I look bad, it will ruin my mood and Ill just want to go home and be alone. So I typically avoid being out unless I have a specific destination.
Im very OCD, and starting workout out obsessively a few years back. It has helped as now I only get compliments on my appearance such as "your huge". But my mental state is still bad. Im also one of those people, atleast in my mind that can look very good or very bad, depending on hairstyle, bodyfat and clothes. I shift from bulking to cutting phases in bodybuilding, so my size and weight fluctuates. Basically its like sometimes I get attention from 8-9s and other not even a second look from a 6. So this adds to the Obsessivness of always trying to look my best, and if I get a bad haircut thats a little short or feel bloated that day it will completely kill my confidence and Ill just want to stay in.
For example just last weekend, I felt ugly going out and bloated. It wasnt until 2 random hot girls looked at me and said mmm delicious, that I started to feel good.
My mental state is very f*cked up and I realize ill never succeed at PUA or even life until I can comfortably walk around in public without self sabotaging thoughts ruining my day.
How can I get over this?
Well as they would say...its all in your head. You recognize that it is in your mind and your own limiting beliefs that are making you think this way. This is not reality...this is your own perception. There are a few ways around it...but the only way through it honestly is to talk a professional.
I know there are going to be guys on here saying after my post...just approach...or when you get results this will go away. The truth is you've felt this way a long time before pickup and PUA. This wasn't something that started over the course of a few days or even a few months. This took years...and it will take someone skilled at undoing all of those thoughts.
You are going to be happy with yourself before you can truly make others around you happy. Sure you can get some short term results and stimuli...kisses, phone numbers, maybe even a few lays...but that little bit of validation will keep you going for a while, but will never fix the true problem. YOU.
Hard pill to swallow but you already knew all of this...didn't you?
CHAT