Hello,

I would say the majority of negative thoughts that I have about myself are about how I look. What are some things I can do, to chance my self talk is not so hard on me about my physical appearance.

Thanks for any input

physical appearance counts. of course it does. but then...... it doesn't count that much. not has you think.

what you have is a self esteem issue. not a physical one.

Having an outstanding dress sense is one thing. Never, ever wear rubbish shoes. The amount of times ive been complimented by women on my shoes is crazy. Buy GQ and Esquire magazine, read and take in what they say about style. Im not saying be 'fashionable' im saying be 'stylish'. If you go into a club wearing a cheap badly fitting shirt, dodgy trousers and awfull shoes chances are youll look exactly the same as the rest of the chumps. Go out and buy a pair of navy dress trousers, a white linen shirt, an unstructured navy blazer and a pair of decent brogues. Then take the clothes to a tailor and have them alter the clothes to your body. I bet by wearing this new outfit youll feel much more confident about your apperance and youll get more attention.

Being good looking or well dressed are only things that can be stacked in one's favor, just like money, muscles, etc. But a guy can be rich and not get women, a guy can be good looking and be thought of as an idiot, or he could be built like a linebacker and still be disrespected and called a meathead or douchebag.

I once picked up a female grad student (with no gag reflex) while driving a ten year old pickup truck with a cracked front windshield. How did I do it? Because I acted like a secure, strong, confident male who was unashamedly driving a beat-up ten year old truck by choice, not fate. I was in fact proud of it, and she would be a fool not to understand it.

ok, lets break this down

if you hate your looks, best way to re-frame this in your mind is to improve the way you look and accept yourself, you have to at some point realize looks are subjective, and the simple fact that you own a dick qualifies you as fuckable, you are good enough to get girls, some will like you, some will not

you are attractive, if you believe it or not, you are, there will always be women that find you attractive (doesn't nessicarily mean you will find them attractive), if your self esteem allows you to see that or not is a whole other deal all together

it is all in your head, it is just that whole pussy pedastool paradigm, the good old ''I am not good enough'', no matter how you look, there will be a girl out there that has a fetish for that exact look and will want to fuck you raw 24/7

but, the problem is, due to the female nature, there tendancy to resist and hide interest (isn't asd wounderful), it can lead guys to think they are worthless, they get some resistance and see it as rejection and punk out, then after x amount of girls not making it as easy as walking through a field of sunshine and rainbows, the guy just simply stops trying and assumes ''something is wrong with me'', when in reality if he just was a little more confident and persistant (without being needy), he could just harass that girl into bed like she wanted in a charming awesome way

also, lets actually break down the social norm of what is attractive, for guys it is almost universal, one guy sees a girl, bam, if she is attractive to him, chances are, she is attractive to another guy about equally

now lets consider girls, completely different, they go through ovulation and have a change in body chemistry that has them switch preference from wanting a masculine looking guy to wanting a femanin looking guy, so not only does their preference change based on their cycle, but also from girl to girl, it is extremely more subjective in reguards to what is physically attractive, that is why you get some girls that love chubby guys, some that love ripped guys, some that love body builders, some that love skinny guys, some that only care if they are tall, some that want the pretty boy, some that want the dangerous looking guy, it all depends on the girl

now with the above in mind ^
lets consider how you can re-frame this situation for yourself to help you grow a better understanding, even the most universally accepted good looking guys, straight 9/10, will be ''rejected'' (not have sex) with more girls then they will close (have sex), that is the norm, 5-11% success, some guys will do extremely better then this, but that is the exception and not the norm, look up paul janka if you need an actually example of this, he has tight game, harvard educated, really good looking, high level of confidence, good frame control, still with all that going for him he sleeps with 11% of the girls he number closes from cold approach and he has been doing it for years and has slept with over 100 girls, now with that in mind, lets get back to the idea of femanin/masculin preference in a males physical appearance, figure out what you consider yourself in reguards to looks, do you look like a manly sort of guy, or do you look like a cute sort of guy, basically if your problem is ''ugliness'' know that during the cycle girls will be more likely to find that more attractive then ''pretty'', so you will potentially be better looking to alot of girls then guys you might precieve to be good looking (because you are wired to respond to femanine features and have a solid grasp of what you find attractive at all times and don't go through massive hormonal cycles), with that in mind you can build yourself an image that supports you and appeals to a certain neiche of women, this will help increase the number of approach invites etc. you get from that particular neiche and will make the gaming much easier

but with that in mind, don't expect girls to jump on your dick or kiss your ass just because they think you're good looking, once again, even if you're a 9/10 you will most likely be seeing more rejection then sex from cold approach, looks just get you interest, they are a form of ''value'', if you can't do anything with the interest (no confidence) then they are as good as toilette paper, but you will obviously get more opportunities and more chances for a warm approach if you have a really sharp image going on

in summation it is more important what you project, then how your physical features per-se, looks matter less to girls almost to the point where they don't matter at all, but when I say looks in this context, it is in reguards to physical features rather then physical fitness, poor health is generally universally unattractive to most (this is not to say that there are alot of differenciating variables to this and preferences), but the best part is you can improve your health and change this about yourself, you can't change your physical features without surgery, and luckily you don't have to, it is almost absolutely meaningless to women because depending on their cycle it is hit and miss

and at the end of the day, you have to just sit back and know that if a guy looks like a model that came out of gq and is dressed very well, charming, confident, and has the potential to become rich, only sleeps with 11% of the girls he gets phone numbers from, then having an expectation of going 5/5 is unrealistic, and if you base your own self worth on your success rate it will damage your game big time, you can't be dependant on the outcome or you won't last, and you won't get good, your happiness has to come from within, external validation will not make you happy, it is like a drug, a quick fix for a problem that never ends until you realize it didn't exist, it is just neediness, a void that can not be filled until you realize that there is no void and your only problem was yourself, so ask yourself, are you even putting forth a real effort to meet women?, are you going out every day talking to girl after girl after girl?, or are you barley trying then rationalizing your lack of success is due to looks, just because you don't want to put in the effort and make yourself vunrable? because if you are not putting forth a real effort, chances are you are defeating yourself before you even begin, just by believing it is not worth the effort, because you believe you are not good enough, you have to realize they are just girls, they love dick, they want it inside them, and the simple fact you have one makes you good enough, and if start working on your health and put forth an effort to meet people you will do fine, you just need that confidence to realize you are entitled to a partner, once you have it you will see resistance for what it is, rather then rejection

GOOD LUCK

i heard a line before it goes something like this;
girls are beautiful and that is why we feel attracted to them
but they are stupid thats why they get attracted to us.

even though i dont think they are stupid. the line made me realize that girls dont really look for guys based on their appearance.

back in the neanderthals days women were attracted to those who hunt to provide food, those who werent afraid, and those who would secure them from danger..
now days that is translated to alpha males
those who are in search of their goals. those who seek money, in other words those who have ambitions.

you dont necessarily need to be a good looking guy or a muscle head to get a girl.
my best advice is for you to work on your inner game first.

if you dont feel good with your looks start grooming yourself. get a nice shrap haircut, shave, plug your nose hair and your eyebrows. girls notice these things the first minutes you interact with them. they want a guy that takes care of himself.
if you smoke stop smoking, it only makes your teeth yellow, stink badly, and reduces yourlife.
dont drink black liquids these also get your teeth yellow.
try to avoid soda the most you can.
if your skinny or fat start doing exersice join a sport or make a routine to work on loosing fat or gaining muscle..

on your clothing.
depending on your budged go to stores where they have cheap clothes and they look good. i personally cant afford fancy shit.. but i look for what looks best on me rather than the designers name.. keep your shoes clean all the time. girls notice shoes first most of the time.

i usually follow mystery's peacock theory
though i dont exagerate i always put something that is different.
right now im wearing two leather bracelets on my left hand. and a necklace with wooden figures. i got all of this for less than 2 dollars at the flea market. and so far i have gotten several complements and ways to be opened by girls around me.

i dont consider myself to be a movie star looking guy.
but every time i get a chance to be alone i sit infront of the mirror and practice the way i talk and the way my facial structures move when i laugh, i act serious, or i simply say something. this way i get rid of laughing at my own jokes. the way my mouth moves. the way i act with people. i discard those bad facial expressions out of my head..

actually with that being said i want you to take 5 minutes of each day starting from the momwnt you read this to watch yourself on the mirror.
i want you to spot those things that you dont like about yourself and work on them.
if its your teeth start washing it as many times as you can.
if its facial hair: get rid of it or find a style that looks good on you same for your hair.
if you have acne like i did: buy proactiv that worked for me.. but you can just wash your face and that will also help.
if you use glasses get somw that make you look cool or get contacts

this is inner game what ever little action you start taking now it will build the way your gonna be tomorrow.. follow this and let me know what have you accomplished a month from today.

be devoted to this and im pretty sure you can change dramatically in less time..
also if you jerk off stop doing it.. this only makes you feel shitty afterwards.
im on my 11 day i wanna do the 40 days ao if i can im pretty sure you can too!

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