Hey it's Fantom,
I want to give you a practical set of steps for you to use, whenever you want
to exit your comfort zone.
A lot of times, I found myself in a position when I wanted to approach a girl, I knew the lines and I still couldn't approach her.
After working on it for years, through trial and error I believe I have broken the
code for breaking through your comfort zone.
There are 7 steps, and if you're thinking "wow 7 steps - that's kind of a lot"...I know, it may seem complex. But I wanted to let you in on this, and go into much detail about it - so you really understand how this works.
So let's get started.
Step #1 COMFORT
In this stage, you feel comfort. You're ok with everything, you don't even think about stepping out of your comfort zone. This can be walking the street and whistling with your dick in your had - whatever.
Step #2 THINKING ABOUT STEPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Now, as you're walking - there comes a girl that you would like to talk to. And this makes you Uncomfortable. Maybe even anxious. But you are only thinking about it, you're not actually doing anything yet
Step #3 BATTLE WITH YOUR MIND
In this step, you battle with your mind on wheater you should do it or not - say Hi or not. And this is actually the crucial step. This is where your brain either give you reasons - do it! or it sends you back home, scared for your life.
In this step, you need to CONQUER your mind. You see, your mind is going to try to trick you. It's going to tell you: "O you're not good enough, she is way out of your league etc."
And you have the option of falling on it, or resisting this and WINNING over your mind.
Step #4 THE TIPPING POINT
This is the point when you say: "Fuck it, I'm doing it! I got nothing to lose but a dry groin!"
This is the decision you make in the moment. If you haven't sh** yourself and ran away by now, now you are in this point.
And if you don't do it immediately, thats OK.
You will ALWAYS have another chance next time. If you say yes in this step and move forward, you go to the next step. which is
Step #5 SAYING HI
This is where you actually step up and the words come out of your mouth... "Hi"
Step #6 AFTERMATH
This is the point when you already said hi and now you're talking with her. Here you need to deal with discomfort you feel when talking with a girl. This is the tension you feel, the feeling of wanting to end the conversation, the feeling of "I want to RUN!"
That's ok, this tension goes away if you stick to it - HINT* The tension also has the tipping point
Step #7 I'M THE ROCKSTAR
This is the point when you've ended the conversation and left. This is where you feel like you just played infront of 20.000 people LIVE. The feeling is just AMAZING. You feel so PROUD about yourself, you feel like you are on the top of the world!
So these are the 7 steps. I hope that just by reading them you've gotten some value. I reccommend you re-write them by HAND, so they stick into your mind when you'll need them.
Also, I recommend you close your eyes and visualize yourself going through the each step when wanting to approach a woman. I GUARANTEE you, you will feel a shift in yourself, and this inner knowing of "I can do it" will be born.
So use that, and if you want to get more stuff like this, go to
www.volcanoconfidence.com
Talk to you soon,
Fantom
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