imagine she is a sweet, sexy, friendly lady.
maybe you had the pleasure of ever having a very unthreatening yet hot babe as your bed partner. imagine your target is her.

if you haven't been so lucky search your memory for such a specimen in movies or boox or wherever. or make one up yourself.

this method has given me more confidence than all other things. save perhaps my desensitization trips to thailand. the bar ladies ther are sweet and sexy.

this method might not work instantaneously. but in a short while you will feel the warm friendly feeling for her. if you have a good imagination. just pretend she is your sweet, sexy, unsadistic lady.

good luck. and remember - leave her better than you found her....