My problem is I am very shy and timid overall. I have great difficulty talking to people and have low self esteem. Anyways, I was feeling pathetic about me not being able to talk to women. So I forced myself to talk to women, even though I was deathly afraid. To my surprise the interatction didn't go horrible like I had thought.

When a girl gives me an IOI or smiles at me I feel great, but then I start to feel unworthy or she will soon find fault in me or Im not as good as her boyfriend, or a million other reasons.

How do you gain security in yourself to be able to take action when a girl shows interest?

thanks

So you basically need help in gaining self confidence. First of all, a lot of us have been there in the same boat. I myself didn't feel worthy to talk to certain girls, secretly wondering what they saw in me, and if they were talking to me out of pity. Our own minds can be an amazing and sometimes terrible thing. They can take us to places we never thought possible and they can beat us down just as easily...if you let it.

Developing your own positive mental attitude will take time. Interesting enough the better you start to do with your own attitude and the more relaxed you become the better you will do.

I know some say, "FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT" which is easier said than done but isn't a terrible idea.

Realize you are a good guy, you do have a lot to offer a woman, you are attractive in your own way, you have qualities within you that someone will love, and you are interesting. If necessary give yourself a pep talk before you go out!

You may want to actively get involved in a hobby or sport that you can gain confidence through!

This can be very powerful. Develop this habit... habits take roughly 28 days to develop. Each morning and evening when you look int he mirror before bed or getting ready say 3 positive things to yourself. I'm telling you that it will help. Its not just enough to know that you are a nice guy and worthy of a great woman, YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IT. When you do your game will change dramatically for the better.

Best of Luck,

Jon

confidence is built on achievement. Take small steps.


Talk to women without hitting on them, they will generally respond positively.

If you feel confident enough to feel worthy for them, then hit on them.

I have such a low self esteem that I feel totally unworthy to be in the presence of a beautiful woman. I feel so frusturated and don't know where to start. I don't know what kind of small steps to even take. At my work, I interact with attractive women, being that I work in customer service. But I feel that they will talk to me, but not like me anything beyond small talk. I can talk to them casually, but I feel unworthy to be liked in a romantic or sexual way. It is a horrible feeling.

yo man, your not any less than anyone else

like theyve said above, its all about pushing yourself and achievement, this is crucial.

One thing that helped me and will help you, is make a list of all the reasons a girl would be better off with you

(make her feel good)
(have a better understanding of women than other guys, be able to handle her)
(Interesting convo)
(new experiences)

and then do some affirmations and visualization of you being the best you. Just make sure you do this to compliment pushing yourself, just doing this stuff on its own will do nothing, doing it whilst pushing yourself to talk to hot girls and go for it will make it true

oh and we are all human, we are all gunna get abit nervous at times with a girl, it doesnt mean your "insecure" or you need to "fix inner game" it just means your human.

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