How does one come about setting boundaries?

I am naturally a very easy going person, so I go with the flow a lot. I have boundaries, just not as many as most.

Set boundaries by being assertive. If you want something you must speak up. Whether its inner game or with another person.

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What axtion said, with the clarification that you should know what you want. What I mean is know who you are and what you expect out of a situation whether it be with a girl, at work, when dealing with family, anything. The more practice you get at it in every aspect of your life, the more it becomes second nature for when it really matters.

Create your own set of rules that you follow for various areas in your life. I have a few "laws" that I have established for my self in order to keep life in perspective and maintain self-respect and dignity.

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examples of boundaries?

-Like if a girl calls and offers you pussy last minute you don't change your plans because of this you do what you were going to do first.

- Finish your work or chores before you go out with people.

- People must respect your time, if they are time wasters stop talking to them.

- Don't allow people to become your emotional tampon, etc.

- Don't give courtesy laughs

There are so many rules you can make for your self in alignment with your own beliefs. If you have clear set boundaries it says a lot about you as a person. This has been one of my problems until recently. So come up with a list of 20 things most important to you socially and then narrow down the list to 10 or 15 things. Then just abide by that.

What I did personally is create my self my own law for all sectors of my health. That way you don't violate these rules often.

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thanks. good examples