Sure, no problem.

The method I use is Morty Lefkoe's belief-elimination technique. You eliminate whatever beliefs you have that cause low self-esteem, nervousness, approach anxiety, fear, etc. and the problem goes away. It's very simple, really. Check out his blog, I can't recommend it highly enough: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/

That's very interesting, I just read a couple of articles and they really sparked my interest. I have some specific questions, I hope you don't mind that I PM you. Thanks!

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

@ 10klvrsin1 hi, i used to, still have the same problems as you, but what poster Txacoli has been extremely valuable, i.e. get angry with yourself (in a positive way), forget about pick up for a while and start social networking. Join a gym, karate club or salsa dance classes.

In relation to porn try Rational Recovery, the only way to quit anything.

Good luck

I am the same age and feel almost exactly the same. I don't know for sure if I have had true social anxiety but some kind of awkwardness that held me back from making lots of networks of friends and perhaps some kind of Asperger's diagnosis too but anyway back on topic.

I think the line that I have embolded is where you have to sort something out. Having such a big inferiority complex will get you nowhere. I do not mean to come across as blunt I hope because I know what it feels like. With me it was more a case of "I see a 9 or a 10 but just don't know how to open her" as opposed to not feeling worthy. To be honest, I may be repeating some people here but you have to desensitise yourself and eradicate this mindset of being unworthy to approach the hotties. Instead replace it with a thought pattern of "There's HB9 or HB10, I will try and approach them with some opener as if they were any ordinary nondescript human being and not get overcome by their looks and I will never feel unworthy of approaching anyone ever again".

I know that I have had enough experiences in the past of being a social drifter - had very few friends as a kid, was a bit of a loner, sometimes still am but try hard not to appear that way, been let down by people enough times in the past which sometimes makes me build barriers for fear of being let down again by people who at first seem like they could be the best friends ever but turn out to be anything but, and general low self-esteem. But when I started this pick-up thing six months or so ago even the slightest opener with a random HB on the street was a confidence boost.

Dude.. I have read many of your posts.. I am not an expert..But I feel the only real thing that will help is letting go. You feel the need to impress an HB 9 in the first instance when you are not feeling comfortable yourselves. First off, you will have to choose not to listen to all that negative programming that your mind has gone through all these years growing up. You are not alone... I have faced worser things..You have to realize just one thing at this point.. It has been said over and over..but it is a plain fact..Only if you feel good about yourselves, will other people feel good about you..It is not really as complicated as you think..A confident man is capable of achieving anything..and seduction is just one of the joys..

Why do you have the need to impress a chick? Remove that need from your head..and be prepared to get rejected..Be certain that you are gonna be rejected.. If you are sure that you are gonna be rejected, you got nothing to fear..Now you got nothing to lose..Do what you can and what you will and don't bother about the outcome..

Okay.. I do agree that we have one problem here.. the ego.. A man can't really take that amount of shit from a woman and pretend like nothing happened and move on..Believe that or not, that is exactly what you gotta do..You do it so many times that your ego doesn't really care about it anymore..It takes a lot of courage..And you can choose to be afraid..But the most important thing is doing it over and over and realizing that its not a big deal..It is more like de-sensitizing ourselves to a certain stimuli..(in this case, it being women, approaching). Practice makes you better..

I feel like writing more..But I know saying is something.. doing is another..I am not perfect..But I am on the move..Don't complicate stuff..It really isn't that big a deal..Take your chances and comeback again..

Tailpiece: I really don't know what kind of issues you have in life..Take aid from an authorized person if you need to..Life is very short and you gotta do what you gotta do..Do what you can and get this corrected...Get on with some affirmations and positive thinking stuff and stick to it..It can do wonders in the long term..