I am new to the forums to an extent. I read over this forum once a year for the last few years. Mostly dismissing it because I was in high school and all you need was social proof to get girls. Now I am in college.

I am half way through reading the game, I am also reading basic NLP books to assist myself *Have not looked into it as far as women go, just basics*

I used to struggle a lot with inner game. I had approach anxiety, but I gave myself goals, to talk to a random HB at least once a day. Then poof, its practically gone. I developed an uncaring attitude towards woman's opinions about me, which works pretty well. A shield that goes up before I go in, unconsciously.

My problem I was reminded of today at a lame 15 person party. We were playin some stupid dirty truth n dare and I was the most experienced person in the room. Half of them flaked out of stupid dares, like kissing someones neck or some shit. When I would flirt around when my dares came about, they would usually make me get rid of it if it involved someone else.

Indirect comments about my body and what not came later as I started to take center stage in the group. I had little intention of picking anyone up at this party, but I went in with shields up, and after a few barrages they broke me down.

I am 5'11 and weigh 200 lbs. I recently discovered I can wear medium shirts although I hardly work out. What can I do to keep my cool in these situations?


tl;dr I don't care what girls usually say, but numerous barrages tears down shield, how do I prevent?

You shouldn't have any shields whatsoever.

Instead, be like smoke. There's nothing to hit, everything just passes through.

I guess the better word to use that shield would be a phase shift. I unconsciously switched into a i don't give a fuck persona. I wrote this after going 40 hours without sleep.

I understand the smoke and the unphased attitude, but how do I achieve this after so many attacks. It seems that I kinda get attacked back to reality where I remember, oh shit maybe I am not that awesome.

Any tips or advice to prevent that