Hello all.
I consider myself a confident guy most of the time, but sometimes I tend to go to the needy AFC side.
I'm in a relationship right now (3 months) with a girl 5 years older than me.
She has expressed that she is deeply in love with me, that I've been the first guy she's fallen in love for, the first one that she's said "I love you" to, she was a 25 year old virgin, and she lost it with me. So all in all, it seems I really scored a jackpot with her. She is really the most amazing girl I've been with. While I wasn't a virgin, it is the first time I have sex while being in love. She's smart, funny, witty, clever, mysterious, all I could ask for.
So it all seems perfect, why am I posting on inner game forum?
Well, sometimes I would like for her to reaffirm the things she has already said to me, and in doing so I might go to the needy side.
Example... I would say something like ...
"I'll keep doing this for as long as you want me to or till you get bored from me and dump me" (not the EXACT words, but the same message) ... and I'd do this just to get her to say that she wants to be with me for a really looong time...
Or I'd ask her "Do you love me?" Just to get her to say she does loves me.
And I can sense her change in body language and facial expressions when I go to this needy side ... then when she says she loves me I say "I know" in a cocky way and she seems to go back to normal.
And I also overthink EVERYTHING she says! Everything she puts on her MSN ... every single personal message, I try to "search" for a hidden message, or trying to read in between the lines.
I think about things she says loong time back, when she says a song is "her song" I listen to the lyrics and say.. Well.. why ? Could this have happened to her??? ...
I really don't like this state of mind ... whenever I feel like in this state, I would read some of the letters she has given me, to get back to the "She loves me" state of mind ...
I need some advice, on how to just be in the present time, not think about everything she says so much....
Thanks.. I hope this wasn't too boring.