Hey guys I'm 20 years old and Ive never had a serious girlfriend. I have had some girls who liked me a lot and I liked a couple of them too but I never really wanted to be an "official" couple for one reason or another. Mainly because I kind of had a screwed up home life. Now I'm about to be a junior in college and I think it is time for me to get serious with a girl. So my question: Is this a big deal? Will college aged girls see it as a major red flag because I have never had a serious girlfriend?

Im in the same boat as you man. Im 21 and have never had a GF. Several girls have liked me, and Ive liked several girls but for one reason or another it just hasnt happened. Honestly, I wouldnt make a huge deal about it. And sadly the best way to go about it is to lie.

Now when I say lie, I dont mean make up a past fake girlfriend. I mean like when your talking to a girl and for example she says shes Italian. Say "uh oh...my ex girlfriend was Italian...i cant even talk to you anymore" Its a canned disqualifier. However, your saying to the girl that you've had past relationships without going into detail. And if she trys to press on then just say something like "whoa, what is this an interview?"

That type of conversation would usually take place though in an initial interaction. When you do end up getting sort've serious with a girl and she asks you about past relationships then I think it would be cool to be completely honest because at that point she'll already be attracted to you. But when you are being brutally honest I would say something like, "my life is really busy, and I just never had time for a serious relationship." and she'll prolly ask "well why now?" which you could respond with "well I feel at this point in my life Im finally ready to handle a lot more responsibility. Plus I was waiting for a special girl"...yada yada yada haha

Anyways, hope that helps man.

I've never had a girlfriend only kissed one girl still a virgin and Im 28. If I say or allow these facts to be displayed in anyway which take it from me on my level in my area that type of info gets out. But I have to fake it, Mystery said it best when you trying to DHV fake it to make it.

No its not serious. If they ask why, just say you're very selective about who you're with. If you don't come across as a creep, its not going to matter.

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Yeah, I feel you, I'm working double time trying to lose my virginity as well, I thought college would have helped me with that but it didn't. I'm 25, never had a gf or even a hookup, and kissed only 6 women in my life. For a while, before I read The Game and started researching pickup, I actually took pride in being the friend zone guy that girls could talk to comfortably, cuz it feels good...for while. And then it sucks.

I've been researching Shock and Awe and overall natural game lately and i feel like this is the best way to go, because I knew there was something inherently wrong with using canned material. Basically you should be honest, but initially withhold the fact that you've never dated or that your a virgin until you actually get her into bed, that's my plan at least. Just dodge the question, tell her "I'm not ready to tell you that yet." in a confident way, cuz if you say it in an inferior type way, she'll conclude that your probly inexperienced. If you really do admit it, say it in a way that you're not ashamed of it, really get into the mindset that you'll even wear it as a badge of honor. Maybe some women prefer an unopened package, you never know.

In fact I read this quote in Tiffany Taylor's ebook, The Single Man's Guide to Great Women on page 24. Now that might just be a turn-on for her personally, but if one woman can like the idea of being a man's first lover than there's gotta be others other that are looking for that as well.

Hi, im 21, had some girls that liked me too, still a virgin but kissed girls and whatnot. My point of view: its not normal if you think it isnt. I mean i was alright with it until i realized its not normal and came here to try and change. I wouldnt be looking through this forum if my life in that domain was fine, so my answer for you is no. The question now is can you make the change in your life...

Good luck and hopefully you will find whatever will make you happy with women. As the guy above me posted if you are happy with them as a friend then so be it.

I laughed because you described me! haha

Its not a big deal man. Just wait for the right girl.

I'm your age and I'm just getting my life on track again. A girlfriend has been the least of my worries. I had such bad social anxiety that girls barely liked me lol. You still have 50+ years to find a girl so don't worry!

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