Wow, this thread is incredible. I was going to start one myself on a similar issue. I didn't really know that other people have this problem.

I feel like I've suffered from some ugly duckling syndrome. In the nearly five years since I graduated high school I've changed a lot. In the way of PUA's before the community, I began to self-improve without guidance, without letting anyone really know what I was up to. But I think I may have overdone it.

Since I started learning PUA I have told people about my goals for raising my self-esteem and confidence, and I am getting the same response from guys, girls, friends, strangers: "Really? You always come across as the sort of person who doesn't care what other people think." Also, I hear from these same people that I come across as "the sort of guy who can get any girl he wants."

And I've done alright for myself, but that's mostly been by waiting around for girls to approach me. Which doesn't happen very often. I've been told, after the fact, that most girls are afraid to approach me, or at least, if they do, they won't let their attraction be noticable, because they're nervous about it. The same girls I'm nervous to hit on! WTF?

Now I'm wondering how I might be able to harness this power. I don't know what it is exactly that I'm doing. I am attractive, which doesn't hurt, (but I'm also short) but it seems to be some sort of personality thing that I'm doing.

People have been suggesting to hit on HB 9's and higher, but how do you think I can harness the personality traits that intimidate HB 8's, etc, to impress upon HB9-10's that I'm worth their time?

Who gets women?
I've also been told something similiar than this..
That because I'm good looking (I'm not THAT good looking, but decent), and the way I walk, and talk and even look at you is very sexy, but as a player vibe, and some girls say that I tell the same to every girl, etc...
I think it makes sense...
If you're good looking and act like a PUA, being overly cocky, you will come off as a jerk and a show off.
But lets say you're average, nothing too special, not enough to get girls looking at you while you walk, and you have the personality and confidence of a PUA. Now that is different....
Who gets them? :S

We are supposed to...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

This may deserve a new topic, however:

How can you tell between the problems described, which derive from being very attractive, and other problems in your game?

In some ways I relate with NewNimbus' post and wonder if this could be a sticking point with me. I have been told I am good looking, however looking in the mirror doesn't reflect back an unbiased opinion.

(I would especially appreciate a response from NewNimbus)

I may have a few answers and suggestions for you.

1. Good looking young guys are considered (pretty) and girls don't like guys that are more pretty than they are. FIRST FACT.
They can feel intimidated as you rightly point out.
2. Pierce Brosnan was very good looking in remington steel and had an army of fans. Its a well known secret? he did'nt get the james bond role because he did'nt look manly enough.(slim, puny chest.)
He beefed up a lot and got more rugged. (presto) he got the part.
They wanted to get a guy like sean connery again (Roger more was to pretty)
Hence the current Daniel craig.

3. What i am saying is stereotypical i know but here me out.

4. Older MILF like women should be your sexual flings because that is exactly what they want.
5. when you are older and more manly (this will take time) go for the younger girls again as most like manly men.

6. And remember if you are a good looking as you say.Think of the ugly guys who will never gat a girl to look at them let alone bang them.

7. And remember these are suggestions.
You do what you want to do and not what anybody here tells you including me.

8. Chill out.

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Its getting Hot out there.

Its all to easy.

I want to be a tree!