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I’m having trouble digesting that fact that my first real girlfriend has had other boyfriends. Especially that she was with one for a few years and they’ve been to weddings together and went on trips and shit like that.
I don’t know why this bothers me? Is this common? Is something wrong with me? I mean she's really into me. She doesn’t even really talk about her ex’s all that much and if she ever does it’s usually never anything too positive. I’ve worked overseas before and Ive had short flings with women from different countries but my usual attitude before with girls was I don’t care about their past because I know I’m not going to be with them that long.
Need some help boys……………..I need to get my mind in the right place.
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I'm not a guy but hopefully some female advice will be of value too.
Think about it this way: of all the men she could be with, out of however many exes she has and that she could go back to, she's chosen to be in a relationship with
you. Sure, the skills you've picked up from the PUA community have helped you get her but it was still her conscious decision to say, "Yeah, I want to go out with him and be with him." Trying trusting her judgement a little. The exes weren't good enough/lost their appeal and now they're in the past, and you're the present. Revel in the fact she wants you now and that those other men are missing out. They're no longer competition.
I think what you're feeling is quite common, and it's also natural. I wouldn't worry about it; just change your mindset. Also, I think you just explained to yourself why you shouldn't even by worrying about it in the first place.
CHAT