I remember the first time I ran into an ex who had since gotten married. It came as a shock to me and I took it pretty hard, although in fairness it was in winter which is always a difficult time of year for me anyway.

Then there was this girl back in England who I used to think of as 'my wife who never was,' when I moved to the US I kept in touch with her for a long time, saw her when I visited the UK, and stayed in pretty close contact for several years. At one point I offered to help pay for her to come out here and visit, but for one reason or another it never happened. We've long stopped communicating but I carried on thinking about her and imagining my alternative life with her had I stayed in the UK or had I tried harder to bring her out here. I was googling around one day and found her - her second name had changed. It came as a bit of a shock, although logically it shouldn't have.

There has been a few similar cases of old flames and old potential flames showing up on the web as married.

Tonight I just found another, her wedding pictures are up on Facebook. This is a girl who got very serious with me very quickly, we talked about getting married, then just as quickly she went a little funny in the head and ran away from me. She burned me pretty badly and I never fully got my head around why it happened.

Tonight's little revalation on Facebook hit me pretty hard. The wedding was in June so it didn't happen too long ago.

I know I need to 'just' get out and hit up some HBs (ah, the magic 'just,' makes life so much easier), but the way I'm feeling now I don't know if it's a good idea. I suppose it would be better than sitting in alone.

I have a few female friends I can talk to about it. Any advice I can get from here might help too.

Edited to add: I'm 34, and I've been thinking about it a lot that I'm still single. These exes and their weddings make it a little bit harder to take.

I know what you're going through man.
And it happens, it's part of reality.
I think the best thing to do is talk to some friends about it.
But don't think like you can run away from those feelings, cause they happen, it's part of reality.

I can't give any good advice on getting rid of those feelings by yourself, if you live your life without thinking so much about it, it will eventually die down/ go away by itself. But if you continue to do whatever wrong you did then, now. Then those feelings will eventually return in a new form, or a new girlfriend getting married, and so on.

Not much help but all i'll say is, their living their lives, your living yours. Your paths crossed at one point, remember the good times and learn from the bad. You went your separate ways. They're living their lives and your living yours.

Edit: and I know it sounds cheesy. sorry for any grammatical and spelling errors but im really tired, can't get to sleep so im cruising the net...