Hi

I’ve been reading this forum the last few weeks, basically looking into bits of this, bits of that etc.

I’m kinda confused as to the best place to begin or at least focus on.

Does anyone have any advice on the best place to start for me. I’m in my mid 20’s
have very little confidence with people (m/f),
low self esteem
no real friends to hang out with
very little gf experience
hardly any hobbies (I can’t really do athletic sports or martial arts etc due to health probs)
My job basically is a one man show so I don’t meet people there
When I’m around people I just don’t know what to say other than general pleasantries, I have a huge problem building rapport/banter with people.
I’ve basically spent the last 10+ years isolating myself from people.

I bought the NLP book “The new technology of achievement” by Andreas and Faulkner as a start and have begun to read that. This along with other pieces on this site has made me feel better a bit.

As well as the book what other method would be most suited to my situation? I’ve seen bits of DD on here and MM and countless other schools but just don’t know which to focus on.

I found the site after watching the Pick Up Artist on MTV. Yes ideally it would be nice to talk to women. But at first it would be nice just be able to talk to people in general and build a friendship with them, or at least be able to talk to them for more than 30 seconds.

I’m not looking for sympathy here just advice on how to turn things around and at least take some steps on becoming better.

Thanks for reading!

You want to turn things around ehh?? Well, in order to turn things around you need to work on your inner game and change your beliefs. Lets face it your not gonna find sucess anywhere in life if you cant handle rejection, criticism, or anything else of that sort. So you need to build a rock soldi foundation that will keep you on your path to mastery. Like david d says you master your inner game everything else will just fall into place. Cut the routines and techniques. Thats bullshit (For now). For a beginner I would suggest the Power of now by eckhart tolle. Download it at 4shared.com. Then after your done with that read provacative therapy by jeff farelly and whatever the other guys' name is. These just give you a background on how to stay in the present moment and how people interact with each other and why they do so in such ways. Then after that get MindOS by Dr.Paul. Yes, you might find it boring but consider this. ITS THE SOLUTION TO ALL PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS. Alone with that book you dont need anything else. Well, because its proven on science and theres no way it can be wrong. Let me know how your doing.


Take care