| Sup people, it's your neighborhood PUA here offering some tips that, if your just starting out, should get you well in your way to guru status in no time. And, If you're a season veteran, a refresher never hurts. Let me first introduce myself, I'm known as G-man and have been a PUA for quite sometime.
Alright, I'll be completely 100% honest with you guys, I haven't sarged (cold approached) a girl in weeks. This is due to some extraneous circumstances ( vacationing in a 3rd world country where there are no hotties) that I'd rather not good into right now. Nevertheless, I have enough successes under my belt to dispense some truths that I believe are foundational to all pick up(and life).
I'll begin with a short story that about a friend of mine that I introduced to the world of pick up. Of course, this wasn't the first time I introduced a friend to pick up, but yet the same thing would happen time and time again. Basically, the neophyte would get all excited and thrilled about the possibilities. They'd through themselves headlong into reading, studying and analyzing. Then all of a sudden their growth would just cease, and they'd become dishearten and cast off being PUA as another self help gimmick, that even if it works only works for a chosen few. I'd always be in my friends ear during this time and tell them that it's not complicated, hard or anything like that. But they'd always look at me with ambivalence and a air of incredulity, as to say, "Yeah, easy for you..." So what was the problem with my dear chaps?
Well, I thought about my experience with Pick up and how I basically did the same thing they did except with one major difference. I HAD NO MATERIAL OR PERSON TO LEARN FROM. This may seem like a big deal, and it may even seem like it was a handicap for me to have no materials( books, audio, etc.) or wingman/pua to help me along the way. But it was actually to my advantage. Now, this is in no way to bash the different pua systems, guides, gurus, etc.. that are out there. In fact, I've now read much of the stuff that's out there and am pretty familiar with most of the popular PUA systems. And I can tell you first hand that there is a wealth of knowledge in a lot much of the material out there. In retrospect, if I know about the books and stuff out there I probably would of read up on them and did the same thing my friends did, become overwhelmed by the wealth of information. That's why not having any information was to my advantage, I from the start learned the secret that all guru's/pua/seducers/ etc.. learn. That true pick up can never but found in just reading anything, you have to go out there experience and evaluate. In other words, the two most important things in PUA is not what system or tools your implementing,but what I call the CC's.
Confidence and Calibration. In exactly that order, confidence and calibration is all you need to get started in being a PUA. There is a last C that you have to consider, but I figure its implied in everything we do. (Common Sense)
So how does this confidence and calibration thing work? Though simple enough, if I sit here and explain it can get a bit technical, so I'll just speed along and explain how it practically works out. In my experience, I first just became simply fed up with my fear of rejection and approach anxiety, so I through all caution to the wind and kept cold approaching girls. I was driven, ambition, heck.. I had something to prove! So I laced up my boots, pulled up my trousers, and approached a girl every day for about 3 months. Now, I did have some game plan after coming across some PUA material. I heard about something called a neg ( a negative statement given to a girl to disarm her and show lack of interest) and about being desireless ( not feigning and getting all crazy for your target).
With just two of those notions, I jumped into the field experimented and learned. Now was I successful in picking girls up, sometimes yes and sometimes no. But the most important thing about to experience is what I was subconsciously learning. Which was how to become socially calibrated through consistent social interactions. In other words, an introvert recluse like me was becoming a people person. And being a people person has alot, if not everything, to do with intuition or gut level reaction. It's like everything we learn in life when it comes to people, whether its our friends, family, lovers, etc... We watch, learn and then imitate. We know when a friend is down because we've seen that expression before and it connotes sadness. We've heard that tone and it usually accompanies inner turmoil, we look at his or her eyes and see the lack of sparkle.
This perceptive ability didn't come over night but through years of interacting and socializing with people. Now, when it comes to PUA it is basically the same thing, except we don't view potential targets as non-threatening friends, we view them as future lover who we want off the back. That's where all the trouble begins. When you start out in your pick up endeavors, don't approach girls with any hopes of anything but a cool interaction. That's it! Just talk to girls, be calm, relax and experiment. See how she reacts to different behaviors you exhibit, take note and then move on. The more you do this the more you start to be comfortable with sarging, talking to females, and you start see patterns emerging-which is the most important lesson. You simultaneously lose fear and learn to socialize, if that's not a win-win situation, what is! Now go out there and start interacting, learning and getting calibrated! I hope this article proves useful to all of you!
P.S Notice that I did not speak about confidence in this article. That's mainly because often being confident is about faking it until you make it. If you act confidently (start approaching girls) you'll begin to behave confidently ( find out there is nothing to fear and become used to the experience). This is especially true when you enjoy the experience. Remember, women are people to! They have layers, so seek to uncover what lies beneath and prepare to be amazed and intrigued!!!
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