I'm posting this in hopes that those of you who have been through the same experience can give me some practical advice.

I've been feeling like a total loser today.

The root of this feeling is the fact that I don't think I am a "catch" by any reasonable standard. I have a hard enough time even confessing this on a forum, but I had sex for the first time last year (I was 29 at the time), and I haven't had any experience with girls. I've worked with a coach for about two months last winter when I started getting a little bit better but then I had to stop because I had problems at work which led to a depression.

This summer, when things were getting better, I started working with my coach again. And I find myself unable to talk to girls, partly because of fear, but mostly because of what I mentioned above: I don't see any reason why these girls (who are about 18-22: I work at a university) would even consider being with me when there are so many guys out there that are way cooler than me and younger and better looking.

I appreciate any ideas and advice you have on this, guys.

Chicks dig older dudes, your age isn't a problem.

Anthony Robbins has a saying; the past does not equal the future. You have only two choices ahead of you: you can give up and be alone the rest of your life because of some limiting beliefs, or you can do whatever it takes to get what you want out of life. Listen you can either view getting laid at 29 as a failure, or you can view it as your first success in a long line of future successes. Whether you believe you are a catch or not, you are right. You become whatever you believe yourself to be. So you can either dwell in the negativity of the past, or bask in the never ending hope of the future.

You strike me as an honorable and decent guy, because you are worried about being a burden on women, which in some twisted way comes from a source of decency. But what you are not realizing is that you are a guy that would never hurt a woman, but unless you get out there and try, some lucky woman will never have the luxury of knowing your decency. Think about all the countless women who are dating true assholes right now. Think about all the women who are in destructive and abusive relationships right now. Those guys don't deserve those women, and those women deserve a decent guy, like you. So don't assume you're not a catch, you'll probably end up being the best thing that ever happened to some woman.

Self defeating self-concept.

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www.coryskyy.com go on the forum and start doing affirmations. You wont feel like a loser ever again.

Hey,

I have really enjoyed reading the ideas on this thread and the love the positive approach everybody has.

also, i have to mention that I have been using the affirmations set out by mjsquared for about a week now that are on another thread further down and they really kick in positive feelings about yourself and your view of your abilities with women.

It may be just a coincidence but this week I went to the beach with a girl on saturday, and tomorrow i am seeing another girl for shopping in the mall, and later on in the week i am setting up another meet with another girl who lives on the other side of the island(thank god)

so i don't know.

either way, they have really done my inner game some good.

good luck

Mr. E good to hear that youve made progress. As for flying squirrel here are some affirmations you can start doing in the morning after you wake up and in the night before you go to sleep. Start off with about 8-10 in the morning then 8-10 before you go to sleep.


Women crave for my attention
I am every womans dream come true
Everyone wants to get to know me
I excude sexuality and confidence everywhere I go
I am one funny son of a bitch
I fuckin love my life
I create deep connections with people
Women love it when I flirt with them
I am one sexy mother fucker
I am always in the fuckin zone
People love being around me
I am one cool relaxed son of a bitch
Everywhere I go beautiful women want to fuck me
I am so money and I know it


Ps look in the mirror and do em for about 20 minuted total for a week. You should feel the difference and your beliefs should change for the better.