I really need some tips. I can't get in the game because I can't let myself move on.

Last year about this time, I took up dating a cute girl I had gone to HS with. We dated about 5 months. She had two little boys, worked full time, and on top of all this, she returned to school, taking a full time course load. With all of that, there was naturally no time for me. I got that. She sent me an email letting me know, and we've never talked about things - only traded emails...I think both of us wanted to avoid further pain. But rejection still hurts, and I erased all interaction with anything reminding me of her. I got off facebook because I didn't want to see her living life and me feeling like I have to explain why she couldn't live it with me in it.

Anyway, that was almost 9 months ago. And still, I feel compelled to look her up online, wonder what she's doing, and generally feel like I did something wrong that prompted this split. I haven't looked her up - I worry that it would just hurt more, so I refuse to do that to myself.

Big picture is this - I'm not meeting anyone. And the excess time is filled with thoughts of what went wrong or wondering how much better her life must be...generally feeling down about things. I'm dreading another summertime alone. And I find that at 32, I'm not getting younger, but the younger girls simply aren't interested.

Anyone been here? Anyone able to tell me how to get out? I'm a young(ish) professional, have a good career (not just a job), and have a lot to offer. But I fear running into her, I fear even hearing about her, and I can't get past this hurdle, and don't know why I do any of it. Please help me take some first step!

Clearly u need to move on . Its natural to feel hurt when u get rejected, but still spending 9 months thinking about one girl is a bit too much and kinda bad for ur confidence as well. This might also stop u from meeting new people as u wont want to experience this sort of pain again.

So u need to move on and meet new people. If u feel the night club scene is not for u, i am sure there are lots of other ways to meet women . They are virtually everywhere . Joining some clubs might be a gd start, cooking or salsa lessons.

The only way u are going to get over her is by filling ur life with other pursuits ( including other women) x

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Any other thoughts anyone??

Well, I gotto agree with Don_K. But there is one crucial thing he left out.

Acceptance. You are clearly fighting acceptance on this. I'd say go onto the web and check out her life, you obviously want to do that. Perphaps you will see she moved on or has another man in her life now. That will be tough, perhaps you will even cry on the floor like a little baby, or perhaps you will feel relieved immediatly, who knows. But it WILL put you in a position were you MUST move on.

We all wish there is sometimes, but there is nog grand PU-plan to score that one ungettable one-itis. If you decided to stay friends and communicate, just do that, be a man about this.

You don't want to spent another summer alone? If you have 30 days. I'd say, buy Style's 30 day stylelife challenge. Worked for a lot of guys: you will have a date in 30 days and worked on your confidence and personality.

Good luck!

Bucc.