Okay, I have come to a conclusion, an enlightenment as some might say. I have found the key on what is the most correct way of evaluating a person: a girl, a guy, anyone.

The only thing that matters is - what you have accomplished. That's right! You are born with beautiful looks? Not a big deal, that's not an accomplishment, you just got lucky, so you are on the lower part of the ladder. You are rich from inheritance? Again - not a big deal, you are value is low. Big penis - not your accomplishment (unless you stretched it).

Now this is where you get bonus points:
- You have pursued your dream/goal or are doing everything to reach it.
- You have accomplished something great: became a rock star, an olympic champion, a master of your trade, built a company from scratch...you have put EFFORT in it.
- You have worked on your body and become from fat to a fitness model.

So, basically, I value myself quite high because I've done some of these things and am doing lots more (actively pursuing my dreams, etc...). I've become very confident because of this and the only people that I value on the same level as me are some self-made millionaires and hustla's I know as well as alpha males (Neil Strauss, for example) that came from 0 to hero.

So if I see this hot girl and I see that the looks is most she has, she is very low value for me and she has to put in effort to get my attention

What do you think of this philosophy? It's quite logical, ain't it?

hey im isaiah nice to meet you

well yea i mean i wonder how i can put myself in value beside my looks i really got lucky but its very common so im trying to find out how to have higher value other than looks but my accomplishments
r u telling me if i dnt have enought accomplishments i wnt be able to close on HB8 HB9 HB7 because im a high school dropout no job i quit and i live with my older brother

well hope to hear from you soon

Well, if you don't have much accomplishments yet, you should set your goals and start working towards them! For example, I'm not rich enough yet, but I will be and I know it, because I keep working towards it and it gives me huge confidence and value in my eyes.

Just try to improve yourself in all ways you can!

I have to say that is a good perspective to look at things but it is flawed. In some ways you can say you only view people as 'of use'. People who don't specialize or don't work hard at something are considered low value. This means that no matter how good someone's personality is, he is worthless. In other words, are people who are enjoyable to be around but don't work hard, or don't have money to back themselves up considered high value? There are plenty of people that have money but are considered low value to me. For example, the "Christmas Carol", the main character is Scrooge, he is rich and smart but shuts people out. Is he considered a high value person? I mean he has shut everyone out so that he could pursue his dreams.

I suggest you change your philosophy. Otherwise, the only people that matter in your life are people with money signs above their head or people soon to receive money signs.

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I didn't say that only money matters. However, if you are poor and feel bad being poor (which 99% of people do) and DON'T work on changing that, then it only tells what kind of person you are - lazy. Lazy and depressive people are not cool. I like optimistic people, people who think, work, hustle, exercise, etc...people who live the life to the fullest. As I said before, it's not money that matters but the person not being lazy and doing something about his/her life. I don't value ignorant people, people who aren't willing to think out of the box, lazy people, depressive losers who want to everyone to feel sorry for them. I like people who FIGHT in their life, who go over bodies if needed, but who have the eye of the tiger as one might say.

I will better hang out with an asshole who is intelligent and cunning than with some kind person who is a complete tool and doesn't know shit. I hate when I ask people "What is your stance on X, Y, Z?", "What do you think about this and that?" and all they can answer is "Ermm, I dunno", "I don't care", etc...

I recommend everyone to THINK, ASPIRE and WORK!

You see there, you've changed your philosophy. Nobody said anything about being depressive. Your philosophy was about "what someone has accomplished". You've already changed your philosophy in your second reply to encompass the personality and/or emotion by pertaining to 'depressive' and close-minded people. Yes, close-mindedness is a personality trait. People that haven't accomplished or not setting goals aren't actually considered losers because like I said before, you can enjoy the company of a person that doesn't have goals just through personality even if he were lazy. For some reason, you've associated 'depressive' people with 'lazy' people. I could be lazy and not depressed, maybe stressed but not depressed and still have fun. Also, ignorance is not the same as accomplishment or the willingness to accomplish but the willing to be open to other beliefs. For example, I could be willing to accomplish my goals but still be ignorant while doing it or I could be open-minded but still not planning on accomplishing anything.

In your second paragraph, you merely stated a false dilemma where you said you'd picked a smart asshole over a nice dumbass when in reality, you or I would probably pick neither or a nice smart person. However, I could be wrong and if I were wrong then you need to re-evaluate yourself.

First two capitalized words were great. Although, I prefer to live life without thinking that I have to 'work' for anything. If you enjoy life, you wouldn't consider it work, you'd consider it just living.

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Hey, don't tear my words apart. I didn't put much time into my message just wrote what was on my head.

By work I ment to "do stuff". To step out of your "comfort zone". Just to work towards your goals, not sit on a couch and watch TV because "that's how you're enjoying your life". If you ever get jelous of someone and don't work towards achieving that which you are jelous of, then you are lazy and aren't willing to work, aren't willing to step out of your comfort zone.

I apologize if you're offended, I'm just letting you know that your first philosophy was flawed. If you're going to post something on the forums and not fully explain it then obviously intelligent people will come and show you that your ideals are wrong and try to convince you otherwise just for your own good.

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LoL, not offended. Maybe it's flawed, but hey, it works for me, so everything's cool.