BJJ is teh ghey. No-gi is where it's at.
Yes you can.

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Lo' there do I see My Father.
Lo' there do I see the line of My People, back to the beginning.
Lo' they do call to me, they bid me take my place among them.
in the Halls of Valhalla, where the brave may live forever.

Not really mate Im a 2nd Dan Black Belt and have also done 2 tours of Duty in Afghanistan things like that can build general self confidence in you and you may be more likely to be approached by the opposite sex but this does not cross over to approaching women. My Instructor is an amazing Martial artist and confident articulate person but still absolutely hopeless with girls. Plus Women in general really aren't impressed with guys who fight and are aggressive there are better ways to display Alpha qualities. Im not saying don't do martial arts its definitely worth it you'll get fitter make loads of friends and have alot of fun, but dont expect miracles its a different mindset. I know soldiers who would rather charge a machine gun post naked than talk to a pretty girl.

I personally say it depends on which one you do. I have done a wide variety of different styles and I find that it depends on your setting. It does build your confidence if its more aggressive (such as doing Kick boxing) but it can make you more tranquil (such as tai chi), which is bad if your going for the centre of attention approach. I'd suggest you find one that is more suited to who you are. I specialize in cross Jui jitsu and akido as one side is very relaxed in learning and allows clear thinking (promotion of over-coming AA and inner put downs) whilst the other side is aggressive and allows critical thinking (which would improve comebacks, negs and general sarging- not that I've managed enough sets yet to say it works lol).

Just look around and try out as many as possible. Eventually you'll cross one that clicks with you. Then apply the thinking you use there to a social setting instead.

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Why would being calm and in control be a bad thing for a centre of attention. You don't need to be an over the moon "dancing monkey" to be the centre of attention. Infact girls see the "dancing monkeys" as insecure.

HB: Yeah his shit is hilarious but I'd never date him.