Sorry but i dont understand you. Maybe its because of my bad english.
It seems to me that u didnt get my idea (coz of my bad linguistic ).

Tyson.

Here's my take:

I agree with Smoke on acting like the kind of seducer you want to be.
I also agree with Diablos about higher status.

I used to never understand being myself.
I'd get around a hot girl, and be myself, and I'd fail.
Friend zone to no end.

But then I noticed when I'd be around girls I had no relationship interest in.
And, like before, I'd be myself.
But they'd cling to me.

I had no fucking idea why.
Then I started reading into all this, starting with David Deangelo.

I realized that, while I was being myself, the "me" around hot girls was different from the "me" around friends.

Around friends:
I could joke around, tease and whatever.
Show no real interest, acting aloof, etc.
They were my friends, I could goof around.

Around girls I was interested in:
I would get nervous, worry about saying the wrong thing.
I would tell them how great they were, this and that.
I'd listen to their problems, give advice.
Do them endless favors.
And get nowhere.

When you get told to be yourself, you're being told to be the "you" that everyone likes.
The "you" that jokes around with your friends.
The "you" that teases his little sister mercilessly.
The "you" that's real.
Not the nervous wreck.

That's what being yourself means to me.

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You can learn and learn and learn all you want... but until you go out and use it, it doesn't mean a thing.

Your inner self wants to be realized. He is the ideal that you strive to be (Like what Brad Pitt is in Edward Norton in "fight club"'s Tyler Durden. Your inner self will always be unsatisfied with your outer self and so, you must change to meet it's needs. It wants you to be Richer, better with women, have more skills, etc. That is what you must do. It is your calling.

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The way I interpret this is that 'being yourself' does not necessarily mean 'being the self you've always been'. You can actually change your 'self', so you can 'be yourself', but your 'self' will be a different self to the AFC 'self' that you were when you started out.

These WBAFCs give the excuses that using routines or acting in ways they wouldnt normally act wouldnt be 'being themselves', but if they actually did it enough that it becomes second nature, becomes part of them, becomes their 'self', so that acting that way is 'being yourself' and acting in the AFC way wouldnt be...

Put simply: Your 'self' is not static, you can change it, and make a better self.

Being your (Best) Self.

May take and bringing back the thread to topic.

Start defining yourself each day if you haven't done so. Let me give you an example.

Raki the doer of cool shit
Raki the mofo price
Raki the sexy bitch
Raki the whatever..

..and this definition of me guides my everyday actions. Like, if it ain't cool, I ain't doin it. If it lowers my value, if it doesn't make me look sexy or whatever i have in my list.. i ain't gonna do it.

..Defining and refining as i go along. It's a process. The Raki 3 years ago is not the same Raki today.

Raki
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www.VinDiCarlo.com

So. This will make sense. I hope .

Being yourself is actually great rule. The point is in bringing your "player self" in action. You don't want to become a "Stylechild" or mini-papa. Adapt techniques that work for you and use them. There is no need of being "perfect". It's just that you have to tighten your game to go for hotter women.

And this is "the best self" - yourself, YOUR game-style, your technique/routines. Be yourself - don't pretend. But be the best-self; don't be that AFC, making lousy boring routines - be PUA instead, or more likely be the "natural". They are their best self and are good at it. So can you.

Carpe Diem.

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You don't know the future, you can't change the past. The only thing that matters is THE CURRENT MOMENT.

Style also mentioned this in the Annihilation Method. I took it as him saying that "being yourself" is no good, because it obviously hasn't gotten you anywhere yet. He then suggest to be "Your best self". That means to be the best you that you can possibly be. This means your appearance, your manner, every possible aspect of you should be the best you can make it. By saying just "be yourself" its more or less selling yourself short. You don't say "this is me I'll never be better than this". Don't half ass things, I don't know if that all really made sense but that's how I interpreted it.

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Seduction isn't making someone do what they don't want to do.Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already.

I'd say being your best self is being who you are but being confident in it. If you're a magician be the best magician. If you're an artist be the best artist. Be confident it yourself, talk about the things you are and like and do naturally but Be DYNAMIC about them. Be CONFIDENT in them. Push yourself to show your higher values because alot of us are not braggarts ( though today I feel like there are more in here than I've realized), most of us are not "normal". We need to say "Hey, I'm not normal but who wants to be normal?!" I'm Alpha, I'm different, ( and at the expense of sounding like a drag song) I'm me. And most people aren't.

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Love is the Irresistalbe Desire to be Irresistably Desired.- Robert Frost

Making love is getting pleasue from giving it.- Jonathan Gaige

Spectrum,

I feel your frustration as I have thought about this a lot in the past. My interpretation of "Being Yourself" is to be able to go after what you want despite fear. For example, your true self desires to:

- Go and chat to that attractive girl...but you don't
- Ask your boss for a raise because you deserve it...but you don't
- Dance freely on the dance floor and fuck anyone who's watching...but you don't
- Tell someone what you really think of them...but you don't

So as a human, you have all these desires based on your instinct and knowledge but you don't manifest them into action because of fear. Fear of what others will think of you, fear of failing, fear of getting rejected.

So who is really being themselves? Those that have decided not to let fear control them. Accept that the fear exists and go beyond it. This is easier said than done, as in your mind, fear is very real and often causes stress and physical symptons.

So I don't think it is fair for people to say "be yourself" because it means overcome all of your fears which is a bloody hard thing to do!

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Be a fearless, confident version of "Yourself"
That's it.

Wow, coming back to this thread after 2 yrs really helps me to understand where my mind was at back then lol. that plus a bunch of chronic.

lol anyways.

Ive been doing some research on seduction, pick up, philosophy, psychology and even in pimpology and they all taught me the same thing- it doesnt matter if U are "yourself" or not, as long as "who U are on the outside matches who U are on the inside."

by that I mean that the whole "fake it till U make it" theory applies in so many different ways in life. its all about being a trend setter, a tribal leader, the alpha male, and actually having a reputation known for doing great things.and that " Im known by everybody in my streets..U can ask anybody about ME, they'll tell U...!" kinda attitude.

if some of U have been in these studies for a while U will see that. even just faking these qualities until they have become internalized enough so that they are 'just natural' can change U. youll have certain body language, behaviors and mannorism just bcuz they are 'you' but they are really the person 'you' created.

thru yrs of acting as the alpha male, ppl will really start to put faith in U, so be careful what image U portray at first. and remember that this first impression is only temporary. Usually after a while U both begin to settle and crystalize in each others mind.

I wont go into too much details but if Ur really interested Id suggest U pick up a copy of the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene, Pimpology: the 48 laws of the game by Pimpin Ken, Mystery Method, and a copy of The Game.

and a good self help book for becoming rich and wealthy Id recommend U check out Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill. His works are cited by many motivational speakers including David D. and Ross J. and will not only help U to reach your financial goal, but also any other goals in your life.

peace yall

smoke a big ass bowl for me.