hey guys im reading the art of approaching in my spare time (on the train to work lol) and there is some mega good stuff on their on inner game. Thundercat says that everything about inner game is classified as confidence. he then goes on to state that real confidence is rare and most people wont find it. that this real confidence is the ability to walk away from a set because you dont need the vaildation u get from sex. u allready have self validation. that is the real secret to confidence, the self validation.
if youve grown up in a family that dogs u down with things lke "when ur my age you will be bald" "take whatever you can get" and "you should go on a diet and lose some weight" and the such are all things that destroy the chance of mastering the inner game. this causes you to have negative thoughts about yourself that you cant controll untill you are able to push those thoughts away by talking to HBs.
also the failure point for allot of people is when they get a good response from a chick who is hot as. when this happens the hidden negatve thoughts in your head will come into play and say wtf is this how can this hottie be interested inme, im going bald/fat/thin/watever. the only way to fix this is to pretty much switch off your brain (impossible). so instead of feeling negative thoughts at the chance of being hurt, jump all the way in and just do it, ignore your brain and maybe just maybe you may be the one this HBhas been waiting for.
the book also says that bad habits to aviod are
comparing, critiquing, criticizing, alarming(seeing the absolute worst in absolutly everything), and crippling (i "cant" do this/that)
anyway this is compilation i read from TheArt of Approaching coupled with shit it made me think about. good uck and ignore that asshole voice in your head thats pulling you down. show that voice just how good you are
CHAT