| Every Tuesday and Thursday, I sit in the halls at college during my half hour break between Differential Equations (shoot me) and History (decent class). Today I had an hour to observe my surroundings because math was let out early. As I sat there, wearing basic blue jeans, a zip-up hoodie, and my A|X baseball cap, I noticed a few things.
-Eye contact is HUGE. I made eye contact with almost everyone that walked by me. I noticed that when a girl was walking and talking with a guy, she would almost always look at me. The guy would quickly look, and then look away. The problem with the guy was, he wasn't looking at her when they were talking. Instead, he would look around down the hall, while she looked at him. Bad.
-Get comfortable with your surroundings. I was sitting on a bench, in two different positions. I would either lean back with my head against the wall and my legs extended somewhat (not crossed, doesn't look right to me), or lean forward with my arms resting on my legs. My hands were always holding my mp3 player. I felt like I owned that bench. People that are uncomfortable with their surroundings look... odd. I would see some kids walk down the hall, and litereally cross the hall so they wouldn't walk near me or anyone else. They usually walked REALLY fast, with their hands in their pockets and stared at the floor. Not something that works. And please... don't walk along the wall. If the whole hall is available, use it.
-Don't over-dress, especially in school. I see some people wearing all sorts of things that just look out of place. And its weird, I never see them walking with anyone. Possibly because they look like an attention whore? Don't buy clothes that scream, "LOOK AT ME!", or at least don't wear them to everyday places. These include jeans that look like were attacked by wild animals, shirts that have logos bigger than your head or that say the brand down the side (I never understood this), and jeans that are for girls. I work at Abercrombie, and the girls there always comment on how stupid some of the shirts and jeans look. All in all, dress for the occasion. You don't wear the same thing to school that you do the club.
-Smile. People who smile look 10x more attractive then people who don't. Plus, a smile can go a long way - It really is contagious.
There was more, I know it, but I can't remember now. Next time, I'll make notes in my cell phone because my memory sucks. But these are just some tips to live by, whether you follow them is up to you. I'd say I'm the alpha in all of my classes this semester, and I think a lot of it comes from the confidence I get while just sitting on this bench and learning from other's mistakes. If this helps just one person, I'll be happy. _________________ The hottest ginger you'll ever meet.
I don't have an ego, I just love how awesome I am.

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