I used to be a "nice guy." Seeking approval and pleasing those around me was common practice. Fortunately I worked on my natural game at the beginning of the year nearly perfecting my body language and drastically transforming my inner game. I no longer care what others think about me, to the point where I don't use discretion in the things I say...

Almost all of the girls in my school are attracted to me, and almost all the guys are intimidated by me. I really have achieved a dominant masculine state. It has been so tangible that I have been told on multiple occasions that I have a "presence", that I "command attention wherever I go," and that I "have an air of importance around me."

With this being said and established, I have also noticed some drawbacks. While I do have the respect and admiration of my peers, they seem to get nervous and sometimes uncomfortable around me. Girls get attracted to me, but sometimes when I neg it comes across as too harsh and more cocky than funny.

I think a big factor is my newly adopted tendency to smile less. I read in many sources that smiling is very "beta" like and so I greatly reduced the frequency of my smiles. It's not that I frown, instead my face is more in a relaxed comfortable phase. Kind like described at the end of this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DaozC3pafaU

Anyway, I feel like over the year I have bounced from one extreme and to the other. I want to know what is the optimal balance of cocky and funny, and what kind of behavior is TOO cocky. I don't want to become the guy who people always get self conscious around, but I also don't want to give in to wimpy beta male behaviors. How do I balance the dynamic of dominance and approachability?

I enjoy having the status as Alpha and having people follow my lead, but I also want the deep human connection with others.

This a lot to take in, but your answers will be appreciated.

dude im having the same trouble with you aswell...
i went to subway to get something to eat and the HB8 there thought i was way over my head, she even mentioned i was being 2 cocky and big headed, the next day at work i was having a break and i thought about what that girl from subway said and i said to myself i wasnt going to let it affect me and out of no where people started saying hi to me because they can feel my presence or the confidence vibe it was weird.

i thought an alpha male always keeps his cool during any situations, and only speaks when he needs to. when i do this people think im in my own world or deaf..
i also want to add does anyone know what the 3rd eye is? or the opening of the third eye? when i walk around or talking to people im always in this state, im just so focus in what im doing and im aware on what it is that im doing and how im doing it. most people think im only thinking for myself, are we meant to think for other people? sure it sounds selfish but cant everybody think for themselves?
is this too cocky or is this the right state for an alpha male?

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Three Types of Players:
1) Those who doesn't know whats happening
2) Those who watch what happens
3) Those who make it happen

too cocky is when it stops being funny and starts being rude most of the time. there are exceptions, but use that as a guide to start with.

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Even the most naturally gifted can learn to become better.

You need to know how much cockyness to use and when. Doing it full blast 24/7 is not going to help you any.