More than anything I've been working on my inner game, building up my confidence and channeling that into my body language. In the past month I've noticed my friend's respond to me differently, which is exciting. In general, they treat me with more respect and tend to follow my lead. I've been surprised how just a little change in posture and more eye contact can really change things.

Now I'm working my way through "The Definitive Book of Body Language" but I'm a little confused by the chapter on smiling. The author(s) suggest smiling more as it makes you less threatening and typically induces a smile in return -- you make other people feel good. My lips are a touch pulled down, almost like a natural frown, so some people think I'm too serious or even unhappy. Is there a balance I should be striking between my passive, almost uninterested natural facial expression and the good-time inducing smiles I'm reading about?

Maybe I'm just reading too far into this. I don't have a hard time smiling at people and it feels natural when I do, but I don't want to scare girls away when they see me unsmiling because they think I'm negative. What do you guys think? Is this more a question of running with what I've got as opposed to thinking through what alpha is?

No reason people won't "respect" you as alpha because your smiling when you have fun...

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Smiling only lowers your social value when you do it as a form of supplication. Where you smile at someone else's failed joke just to appease them, or combine it with poor body language.

If you don't smile, you can come off as too serious and thus slightly insecure about being comfortable.

Just be comfortable and smile when it comes to you naturally.

Always smile. It is very good to be a smiling guy. If you think being alpha is not smiling than I believe I disagree with your concept of alpha. Alpha is a confident independent human (girls too), Alpha is confidence and comfort in any situation, someone who smiles a lot is all of these things.

Great book by the way! Good read.

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A frown is considered negative and it's most likely became natural because you've felt bad, angry, sad or whatever for most of the time. When you're upset your body language shows it and it becomes a habit the more you feel that way. Now finally you've realized this and I think it's time for a change.

First, loosen up and have your 'natural' face on. Now take a look in the mirror and ask yourself, how does this person feel?
Now you probably know what a 'natural' happy face looks like. It's like someone has this glow on his face and looks happy eventhough he's not smiling. Now, think about the things that make you happy: your favourite music, pictures, moments, friends. Just get yourself filled up with joy.
Now take another look in the mirror, maybe your face has already changed to a more happy expression but maybe it didn't. Now I want you to make a face that goes congruent with how you feel, a happy face. No fake celebrity smiles, just the face that glows of joy. You're happy and your face should show it.

Of course this isn't a way to make your facial expression be more happy all a sudden, but the more you think about changing your face into a happy face, the more it becomes natural. It's like changing your body posture but instead you change your face.

I do this alot myself. I have a natural negative face myself, because to be honoust I'm not the happiest guy in the world or atleast I was. The more you realize these things, the more you want to change it. It's made me enjoy the little things in life ALOT more and people notice you being more happy in general. Putting up a happy face eventually makes you feel happy just like a confident body posture makes you feel more confident, weird isn't it?

Hope I helped, good luck with everything

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