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Ok Body Language is a huge topic and so this is going to take me a few weeks to finish this thread and I still will only be scratching the tip of the iceberg on this one. I will constantly be going back editing and adding as things come to me, so you may want reread here and there and pay attention to the last edit date.
There are a few books I feel every pick up artist should read. I am sure there are quite a few more I need to read but those have been the most helpful to me.
The Definitive Book on Body Language- Allan Pease
What Every Body is Saying- Joe Navarro
Undercover Sex Signals- Leil Lowndess
Love Signals- David Givens
Your body language matters as much as hers. If you are uncomfortable in a conversation she will be, this is why confidence is so key, as human beings we tend to feed off/copy the body language of the people we are speaking with. That body language in turn makes us feel exactly as the body language we have shown, learning a good confident pose and practicing it(always have good posture, if you don’t stand like your confident you will never be confident) I promise it will make you feel more confident. People are just naturally more comfortable with someone who is comfortable, and a confident person is always comfortable.
In body language there are two things a person is and that is Comfortable or
Uncomfortable. That is the basics of body language. Either that person is comfortable or uncomfortable pretty damn simple.
In courtship there are some additional signs that we as men need to pay attention to. There are some rules to body language pretty general just about everyone has them.
1. Clusters, these signals need to be put in clusters one signal could be one thing and another means something. Be very careful what you choose to listen to, make no mistake the subconscious talks through body language far more than through sound.
2. Context, sometimes we don't realize that things must be put in context. I.E. A girl has her arms crossed(Discomfort) because she is cold but has a genuine smile and bobbly head with a tipped head.
3. Continuity-Consistency, make sure there is continuity in these signals, you need to know when to change the topic in a uncomfortable situation.
4. Be optimistic, notice the good and the bad signs. Don't focus on the negative. There may be plenty of positive signs you are missing.
5. Be observant notice things and you stand out more(let her know how it feels), I know when someone is lying to me in a general conversation.
We will structure this with some basics. Than give a general understanding of body language(actual body language descriptions and comfort levels with them). Than we will put it all together using examples through out the thread. Than we will go over special courtship ones. This thread will be littered with little gems here and there I promise and it should get better with each edit.
Those are the rules we are starting with give me some more solid rules and we will add them.
Ok so there are some basic parts to the body.
1. Face(lots of details on just the face).
2. Head position
Let’s get started on general body language. There are things we know naturally, things we feel but we let our minds disagree with them. Women pay a bit more attention to it with their intuition. Their ability to read body language is natural, they are wired that way so that they can read a child’s needs. As I discussed there are really only two things that a person can be and that is comfortable or uncomfortable. Those are the two signs that tell you to stay and conversate, change the topic, or just move on.
A couple of points. The general human reaction is not FLIGHT OR FIGHT. It is Freeze, Flight, or Fight. In a uncomfortable situation people tend to freeze before they want to leave. Everyone freezes for a second, it is a primal instinct. Predators focus on movement that is where the freeze comes about.
If a girl is stagnant and motionless she is not a character in this conversation and either you need to catch her attention or move on. Keep in mind that a girl may start out like this as a lot of girls are very shy, if you are talking to her for more than a minute and nothing changes you should bounce or find some way to grab her attention.
If you have a girl that is interested they tend to begin to practice ISOPRAXISM, this is where they copy your body language. A stranger can copy your body movement. I like to carry chap stick with me everywhere. I apply it if my target puts it on and they generally notice and start to like you, you guys are alike. I also just apply chap stick here and there for purposes of finding out who is attracted to me. If you apply it you may notice another girl applying lipstick or chap stick. If you are already talking and she copies your body language, you guys are falling in sync together a very good sign in courtship. Copying their body language can make them comfortable on a subconscious level great tactic to use once there is a little bit of interest. I once seen a girl obviously uncomfortable in a club with what was going on she had her arms crossed and was slouching. I walked up and stood next to her and crossed my arms and said can I have a bad time with you. Actually it worked, I found out she was pissed at her friends and started a solid conversation.
If you make eye contact with a girl and she looks away and then back a little later you already have an invitation for approach, but if your are still nervous let her catch you staring something mundane if she looks over at it it is a clear sign she is interested in what you are interested in, which means she is interested in you.
Man I have so much to add.