Im currently in a barbershop.

Im analyzing my body language right now.

Im tapping my feet to some imaginary music which isnt playing.

Im very nervous;perhaps beng around un-familiar people in an un-familiar place(new barbershop).

I feel the tension...

Im scratching my face and my knees although I dont have an itch.

My body Lang' is locced up,arms crossed my body.

Im scratching my head.

My gaze is downwards to the floor so I tilt my head up to appear confident.

Im feeling the tension man!!

Im fiddling with my mobile as I write this.

Im nibbling on my bottom lip...

If Im so unable to keep my shit together in a barbershop around 5 strange guys...

Imagine in a night club arund 100's of HB's?

The good thing is,I recognize these BL faults & insecurities and trying to correct them on the spot.

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That's lack of inner game. You have to convince yourself that you own any room and situation you are in. Not that you are more alpha or better than everyone else, but that you OWN the moment. When you have that down, you won't worry about what anyone else thinks or does, because you own yourself, and their actions/opinions dont matter.

I had the same problem and I addressed it; found out that I was lacking in leadership ability and the knowledge/experience to handle any situation I was in, good or bad. Worked it out and now everyone can see without me saying a word that I am a leader, and I know how to get things done.

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Thats cool Deviated Rationality.

I know the concepts and psycology.It's just to put them in action.

Its funny that I can pump my state before-hand and own a room or venue.

But it's not internalize.

I have to work myself up to convince or tricc myself in believing that Im the man!

I have a huge night of clubbing prepared tomorrow night.

But as usual,I'd have to recite some kind of pic-up mantra in the mirror to build state.

But without those recital and focus,I'd be like the average sitting ducc in the joint.

I need to get this internalized where I dont have to recite or pump state in order to be confident.

Thanks for the reply Deviated Rationality.

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Have you looked into Toastmasters.org? And have you ever been in a leadership position for longer than one instance (multiple times, with the same people/setting?) Sounds to me that you have what you need, just little experience in the field with it. Or you just may need to be a prep man, which is fine to.

You really need to figure out what works best, and use it. Personally I had problems with canned material, so I would read it over and forget most of it, and had problems until I learned how to improvise on the fly, which turns out I do exceedingly well at.

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I had to laugh because I had the same prob' with canned stuff for years.

I remember going to clubs with notes of canned routines in each pocket in case I forgot(lol).

Well to be honest,I've always dreaded the thought of leading in any situation. So I never really put myself out there to lead.

Recently,I've been working of alpha mannerisms and being the leader of men.

Im working on that hard!!!!

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Then youre off to a good start. It may not be youre thing, but once you can lead men, the women will follow. It may seem out of your character, but look up BDSM material and training for Doms and Masters, it will show you the psychological aspects of Domination mentally (not in a fetish way, but how to basically get anything you want) and those theories go hand in hand with leading. Best resource is fetlife.com and collarme.com

Keep in mind BDSM isn't all you may think, its not all sadism and masochism, its more along the lines of knowing what your role is as a person and in a relationship, and there are many different ideas about it, such as "vanilla" sex(which is what most people are) but a 1950's house hold, where the man has all of the authority and the woman does all of the maintence and chores. That simple, non-kink way of life is still considered a part of (albeit a small part) BDSM.

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You're good on the psycology.

I was gonna ask you if you knew few sites where I could checc out some stuff to help me with dominance.

Ok good,you recommended some BDSM sites.

Im gonna checc them out now.

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Studies have shown that improving your posture and adjusting your facial expression can change your mood and chemicals produced in the brain.



http://www.sciencedirect.com/science?_o ... dedf8ca751


http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-arti ... 69313.html

Also I would read the book Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan and Barbara Pease. That would help you to do what RVAIS said.

Ross Jefferies has a lot of good videos on transforming yourself. If you have the time you should definitely look into NLP, which teaches you how to mold your personality to be similar to those you look up to, as well as a few other things that would make your game insane.

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I do checc out NLP stuff.

RVAIS makes good point on posture.

I have a habit of leaning forward and slightly downward when I sitting.

I always correct this but it's done unsonsciously for about 40 seconds untill I catch it.

But I wouldnt want to be caught in a social venue sitting with this bad posture(unconsciously)while all the women checc it out.

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I too check and readjust not just my posture/stance but my gait, head position, shoulder position, facial expression where my feet are pointing and distance from people.


A good NLP technique for confidence can be found in the speed seduction series, essientially you imagine a time in your life where you were feeeling super confident than you hold your left wrist, I do this while listening to hypnosis/subliminal tapes for confidence tapes to reinforce it.

Powerful exercize RVAIS;you got me sold.

Ok,so go a bit indept for me on an NLP technique that you spoke about(thinking bacc to a super confident moment in life).

I get the concept but give me a bit more detail on it.

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Do you own a speed seduction product cause its in there, essentially you think back to a point in your life where you were super confident in your life focus on that feeling while you wrap your right hand around your left wrist. NLP is full of all kind of tricks framing, triggers, ect.

Thanks guys

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hate 2 sound like such a novice, but WTH is NLP?

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