| Hey guys, first post
I'm a college student (voted class clown in high school) who has moderate success with women, but it really does seem to be hit or miss. I can think of only one girl of say...15-20 that I've hooked up with where I actually felt that "vibe" Juggler talks about, though I'm guessing that is something one can learn to create. (Incidentally, I thought this girl was completely out of my league at the time, so I was acting completely normal and acting like I didn't give a fuck...and she liked it.) My real problem, however, is that I think I'm too funny, or, more specifically, my humor isn't the kind the women find attractive (C/F).
I had bad experiences with girls (didn't find me attractive)/guys (made fun of me) in early childhood and my first years in highschool, so I think I've put up this wall of humor as a defense mechanism. I usually assume the role of the comedian who is looking for responses (DLV) within his social group, which I would like to stop doing. (I'm On the other hand, I think I am pretty witty, and I don't want to kill the funny guy in me, I just want to tweak him a bit so I get people to laugh with me, not at me, all the while DHV'ing. It just seems like I never take anything seriously, and feel this urge to always make things funny when I could be more genuine.
Can anyone comment on this? Has someone had similar experiences, or can they provide tips?
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