| The vast majority of men are unfortunately BLIND for all the opportunities presenting themselves all around them: we think she was just looking because she had to mind her step, that she moves around while sitting over there because she’s an active, spontaneous kinda girl, that she’s just doing her hair because she wants to make sure it looks pretty…but looks are deceiving on a surface level my friend.
Women give SO much clues that they like you and would like to continue to the next step with you with their body language, that it just SHOCKS me how many fellas out there walk around being single for weeks, maybe even months or YEARS. We always seem to think that it was “just a look” or “a normal thing to do for anything”…but nine times out of ten? It was a pure GREEN LIGHT, inviting you to come talk to her, or do MORE with her once you did…
They actually feel REJECTED when you don’t approach them after they gave you their “body clue”, and here us men are feeling rejected after one conversations that doesn’t end well! Women feel constant rejection, and it’s time for you to heal the wounds and let them know that you’ve noticed..
Here’s an advantage of noticing the opportunities too, think about it: if she signals you, she lets you know she likes you FIRST…so approaching her and getting the number is just a formality, you’ve already won because SHE started it!
So I want to give you some body language training of how WOMEN want you to know, so you’ll never miss out on an opportunity again…
P.S: I’m an average looking guy, far from Brad Pitt material and still I count around 20 body language signals PER DAY when I just take the train to work, work, have lunch, work some more and go back by train…20 without even looking for it – maybe now you’ll know how MUCH you’ve been missing.
From nothing > opening
- She's looking at you longer than usual (studies have shown that it takes an average human brain LESS than half a second to see and recognize an object being seen..so anything BEYOND that is her looking at you for a reason! Always look around wherever you are at to see who’s already looking, even online: the last visits page!)
- Prolonged eye contact (either establishing eye contact with someone already looking at you or looking at someone until they look back, again...the half a second rule applies)
- Since eye contact is so important, here’s another: if she looks at you and you at her, and she looks away? That’s not rejection, that’s her BEING SHY..being nervous about the sudden sexual tension
- She's in the vicinity longer than usual (she stays juuust a little longer than usual ordering a drink or talking to someone near you, after her friends have already moved to another spot, etc. it means "here I am, take me now!")
- She's touching you subtly by putting her hand on your wrist or arm, pushing you or stomping you as to say "how could you! you're mean" (pay attention: a lot of times, YOU are opened during normal conversation without even noticing it...)
- Here’s a juicy secret: I highly recommend you go out on to the streets or to a club or wherever with a girl you’ve befriended and ASK her which woman is interested in you, ask her to tell which signals she sees…you’ll be AMAZED, trust me
- She's stroking, twisting or throwing around her hair near you (sign of interest, the body language way of hihi or you make me shy!)
- She's got her legs crossed with the upper foot pointing towards you (clear sign of interest)
- She positions her body during conversation towards you as to say "I'm open to you"
- She leans in to talk to you
- She starts powdering her noise, doing her make-up otherwise or wetting her lips around you
- She can't sit still or stand still around you (she's nervous around you because she can feel tension, sexual tension that is)
- She's swallowing with her throat a bit TOO much around you (it’s like she ate something she can’t swallow, and it’s a CLEAR sign of nervousness, see above for why that is a good thing again)
- She's fidgeting around with her hands, nails, feet, legs, etc. (again, nervousness)
- She smiles back when you smile at her or even in her direction (she’ll only give a slight smile then – but it’s there)
- She waves back or at you or smiles when you wave at her
- If you raise your eyebrows twice as to say “how about you and me go do something..”, the naughty eyebrows or so-to-speak, and she smiles? You’re in!
- Etc. you can check out Allan Pease's book Body Language
From opening > attraction
- She's laughing (laughing is NEVER because something is funny, it's either a) a direct response to HOW the joke is being told as in..the character of the person that's bringing it a person likes or b) too laugh away nervousness or vulnerability...either way, it’s a sign that she’s into you: liking your character or feeling the tension between you two..)
- She feels comfortable standing or sitting close to you the whole time while you’re talking…with exception of a noizy club where she needs to do that or she can’t hear you, lol
- She's doing all of the things of from nothing > opening WHILE you're interacting with her
- She needs to go somewhere where you need to go to too and she agrees with you accompanying her without saying a thing (it's like you're on a little date: you went somewhere TOGETHER)
- She tells you you're mean, crazy, naughty, wild etc. (this shows she thinks of you not as being boring, predictable, lame things such as her annoying obligations and daily routines but as someone that's fun, outrageous, successfully teasing...which means she’s INTO YOU)
From attraction > closing: getting the number/email etc.
- She's so involved in the conversation that topics seem to "flow" along as you go, where time flies and the conversation goes on auto-pilot because it's fun, interesting, flirty..this is when you have the gut feeling you can keep on talking for AGES with the girl
- She says or does all of the things I mentioned in the previous “chapters” more than once
- She goes along with you isolating her (to get a drink, to go some place that's more quiet, basically to accompany you ANYWHERE..it means she’s comfortable around you and enjoys your company)
- Notice the eyes...they never lie! Dilated pupils and/or that sparkle in her eyes says everything about how much she's into you...
- She agrees with you on a LOT of things you say (agreement is, unto itself, giving approval! yes, yes, yes...with means there are no objections to moving on)
- You can easily escalate without much resistance (so from just talking to flirting, from flirting to light touching, from light touching to possibly dancing, it shows she’s ready for more)
- You can come into her personal space without her backing up or acting uncomfortable (in human interaction, there's a physical comfort zone around our bodies that determines whether we’re intimate with someone, business-like or friend-like and if you’re business and come to close it makes us uncomfortable: so when you're standing really close to her, like one inch away without her being bothered or moving back? That says enough about what she thinks of you, 4 feet away doesn’t mean anything)
- When there's togetherness (you can do or have done several things together with her: toasting a drink, going to the bar and dancing in Club Game for example)
Remember that just one of these is enough...
From after closing > dating
- She starts to mimick your words and expressions online, on the phone or in person (example: when a girl tells me I'm mean, I mostly say "damn right!" so if they're starting to say that, and other things too...it's basically verbal rapport and I know it's on!)
- She responds VERY quickly to your text message, your online message or email (within a few to 10 minutes) multiple times
- She responds with more than she HAS to in a text message, online or in emails...doing her best to tell as much as possible OR showing a lot of interest in you by asking your ass off, etc.
- She sends you an email, text message, or starts talking online multiple times while you're away or haven't talked yet (this tells you she has been thinking about you numerous times)
From dating > sex
- For moving to kissing, it comes down to all of the above as possible cues (especially ON a date she responds extensively, mimicks your words and behaviors, etc.) and her accepting your touching (light first, than stroking her hair, or touching her face and then...) kiss
- From kissing to sex...it all depends on the girl you're dealing with: some will rip off your clothes as soon as you start kissing them, some require several dates or even weeks. Men are like switches that you turn on or off, but women are more like the volume button of your car stereo: you need to turn that button up slowly, all the way to FULL volume. Her earlobes, her neck, her back (if you stroke it or tease it with your nails) are good soft spots to start, as well as her hair and face (most women absolutely LOVE it when you tenderly and softly stroke their hair or face), plus your warm breath in her neck als turns a woman on…but I’m getting carried away, because I’m not taling about what you should do, but how you can tell how SHE feels
- She bites her lips…it’s a classical sign of lust and mostly used for just that and it’s a clear sign of her fantasizing about more..
- On the date, when you’re next to her and she stops talking alltogether while you talk with a gaze in her eyes, it’s a sign of her being mesmerized by whatever you say..she’s totally under your spell and it’s time to move in for the kill
- On the date when you’re sitting or standing in front of her and she can’t stop smiling, looks around a little TOO much or looks down a lot…it means she absolutely and totally shy because of you, tease her about how you’ve noticed it and the “kill” isn’t very far
Remember that having sex ultimately is HER decision: she needs to feel comfortable, trust you and feel safe around you before she’ll happily move on to the next phase with you…that goes for all the other phases as well. Don’t worry though, I’ve given you enough body language clues for how you can guide her to feeling just that throughout this post.
There are MANY other body languages cues, signals and “green lights” a woman can give you that tell you that you can move to the next step with her, but if I described them all this post would become an ebook, lol!
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