I have been studying this for a few months now, and I notice they teach the same strategy for business meetings & interviews.

When you are talking to the target, once you have attracted her, and are seeking rapport, start to mimick her body language, or watch and see if she mimicks yours.

Ex. If you are sitting at a table, and she has her hands resting face down, you also place your hands in the same position. When she tilts her head, you tilt yours. When she leans forward, you slowly lean forward. Its funny that just this creates a huge bond between you and the target. Its almost like an immidiate invisible connection. If you notice her mimicking your body language, then you have already won her over...move for a close.

NOTE: This is opposite of when you first approach the set. Only mimick her AFTER you have already attracted her. I would say, start mimicking about 10-15 minutes into the set.

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Very good tip
I think it's important to add that you shouldn't mimick her to obvious, otherwise she might think you are making fun of her.

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Usually, you can get away with mirroring pretty easily and she won't even realize it. I agree that you shouldn't make it obvious (i.e. mirroring her every move inch by inch), but usually when you do mimic her you can get away with more than you think. It may feel uncomfortable to you during that moment, but to her, it feels completely natural because she can relate to your body langauge (which in reality is her body language) on a subconscious level.

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Mirror or Mismatch. They're rapport tactics, nothing more or less, practise is a must though. Sometimes being covert is appropriate, sometimes it's better to actually be explicit about the mimicking, eg. C&F.

Yes it can feel a bit uncomfortable for you - but its comforting to her.
I totally agree J?gsaw it can be subtle. I have been taught by NLPers you can actually do it very subtley and do so after a delay of say 20 seconds.

This way she won't notice and if you do it at say 25% extreme of what she does its so subtle but arguably equally as powerful.

Lets say she runs her hands through her hair , you might just touch or scratch your hair [maybe with the same hand as she used but only in roughly a similar position].

So you do it all in subtler versions of what she does. If you can do it well within 5-10 minutes you should be able to lead. Leading then gievs you some control.

EG: You can test by picking your drink up with a certain hand or shifting your body in a certain way and subconciously she may do the same - this is a good sign rapport is built.

You can do this with women your not even in a conversation with and they could be with others sitting on the next table down from you - say in a restaraunt. As long as they are looking in your direction and you've got some of their attention [in their peripheral vision] it can work.

However its not a substitute for engaging in conversation.

I am curious where you found this NLP material on mimicking? I'm a knowledge junkie so let me know if there is an ebook out there on this.

thanks

Is there really a book on this? I'm questioning whether or not it's neccessary. All this time, I've just been copying my target's body language whenever it seems right.
If there are important details to this that I've missed out on I'd be pleased to know.

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I just picked up an NLP book called NLP the new technology of achievement. It is really intersting and helpful for anyone wanting to conquer what they need to get a handle on.

Let girls do the mimicking..

You need strong open body language.. In my opinion, nothing looks more ridiculous than a guy attempting to mimick a girl.

Look some girls are alert, some aren't.. You can bring some girls out of their shell, some you can't unless you have alot in common with them.

When you go out in public, school whatever, watch carefully for which girls are communicating non-verbally with you. These are the ones you should approach. Stand tall, smile and look into her eyes when you speak. You want to lead, not follow.

yap ,, mirroring the target seems works etremely well , great opener.



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