Tonight during the party I was talking with one of the guys from one of my social circles and after I told him that I like one girl seriously he said that I should stop hitting on other girls then. What smacked me was that I wasn't hitting on them - at least not verbally or at conscious level.
I went to some girls, from the same circle, and asked the same thing - they confirmed.
Now I have heard it from a couple more people, and they are from different circle.
My question:
How to stop looking like I m hitting on every girl?
I might be talking about weather and from the side it looks like I m hitting on them..
I was working on building seductive body language and now I need to get it under control...

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I am perhaps having this problem, but no-one has told me, but I suspect this. Some girls are ok with it, and maybe enjoy it, but some of them won't, and some girls are quite shy with me now, so perhaps I have the same problem. Only thing I can think of is too much eye contact, narrowing your eyes a bit, always making it seductive, that kind of thing.

I disagree about too much eye contact being a problem. Most of the people I know hate when you are talking with them and not looking in the eyes.
And more importantly, people from outside can't really tell what kind of eye contact it is.

Guess it might to do a lot with having too much kino. Once you get comfortable touching anyone it becomes part of you and you stop thinking about it.

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I have this same problem haha it's refreshing to know I'm not the only one!

I agree with you, less eye contact is not the solution. Good eye contact does so much for interactions.

Dunno what to tell ya mate! Just in the same boat waiting to find out myself. If I figure it out I'll be sure to post it here

I guess the main point is that you have to become concious of what you do, that works for me at least.

I always realize my used 'techniques' the after I went out to have a good time. (That's because a part of me is a natural, long story) The point is, when you become concious of it, you can act and adjust accordingly if needed on the spot.

My advice is simple, try to be concious of every movement you make. It migth feel weird to take note of it, but try it. If you see someone else who does the same as you, try to see if he is in control as well...

I hope this helps...

I guess the main point is that you have to become concious of what you do, that works for me at least.

I always realize my used 'techniques' the after I went out to have a good time. (That's because a part of me is a natural, long story) The point is, when you become concious of it, you can act and adjust accordingly if needed on the spot.

My advice is simple, try to be concious of every movement you make. It migth feel weird to take note of it, but try it. If you see someone else who does the same as you, try to see if he is in control as well...

I hope this helps...

I figured something out. Gesture less animatedly, and speak to more mixed sets. In one on ones, if you stand face to face with a girl you're hitting on her or at least have the appearance of it. If you stand next to her it gives more of a pal's type feeling and appears that way to everyone else.
This is my experience. I want someone else to try this and tell me what they think.
More as I figure out more!

Yea, I think you should avoid the one-on-one chats with the girls you aren't hitting on. Save that for the one's you're interested in. There's always a mix of different groups at a party - blend in with the groups of 2 or more people instead

Yea, I think you should avoid the one-on-one chats with the girls you aren't hitting on. Save that for the one's you're interested in. There's always a mix of different groups at a party - blend in with the groups of 2 or more people instead

Where would be a good place to start learn seductive body language?

Any good forums or websites? maybe books?

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Perhaps you are too engaged in the conversation. Don't lean in, be more chill and laid back (locking in). Face her 1-on-1 when you got her on the hook point. As someone else said, being less animated, keep your energy level lower than her etc..Good luck!