When girls see me, their impression is I'm hot but I want to be more of a charming/stunning dude if that makes sense. I'll compare it to celebrities



Example of hot: Jason Statham


Examples of charming: Ryan Gosling, Zac Efron, Paul Walker, Brad Pitt.


What defies this type of charming? Sorry if all this is confusing

...you can't. It's something you're born with. I guess you can fake it, but girls smell that shit a mile away.

Well I'm talking appearance wise, I can change my hairstyle, facial hairstyle, gain/lose weight on my face? This isn't for getting laid, I'm satisfied with my looks. I just want to further improve myself to the maximum

Pretty simple, Non-threatening body language while confident.

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believe you are charming no matter how you dress or look try to feel that the charm aura is emitting from you


and the most important and effective method of being charming, SMILING. A smile says a lot about you.


good luck

I think its a gift given to people since birth,

ware the clothes what clothes I’m talking about. Everybody’s got an outfit that makes them feel like a million bucks try Pre-socializing striking up conversations with any person you meet on the way to the event Nothing heavy. How are you? Busy day today eh? I like your jacket.Charming people focus on the other person. Rarely are they themselves the topic of discussion.listen to people when they talk to you and give them feedback.

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I find that smiling is a good way to charm. If u keep the conversation on a good tone, smiling while she's talking let's her know your paying attention plus is good body language.

To say being charming is something a person is born with and cannot be learned is hogwash.


Record labels and talent agents spend billions in lessons to teach hollywood celebs how to be charming.

Look at one of the most successful PUA's, Style! He was a complete dork, and figured out on his own how to charm women.

Lol..can't believe some idiot wrote "you are born with charm."

That's as ridiculous as saying "you are born with intellect"

Wrong my friend.

I love how everyone says "Smile" considering its one of the worst pieces of advice in this situation.

Using Ryan Gossling as an example (The guy has real talent) - You'll notice he doesn't do a lot of smiling (At least not when he's acting). Watch Crazy Stupid Love or Drive and you'll see what I mean. He Grins and Smirks.

Smiling makes you appear more open, more approachable, and it allows girls to feel comfortable around you. But smiling too much is an innate sign of beta (Even I am guilty of this and am slowly working on it).

Learning the right time to smile and the right time to Grin/Smirk is the secret to being charming. The silent smirk is a devastatingly powerful weapon. Use it often, but carefully.

If you don't understand what I'm saying just watch the above movies and notice how little he actually smiles.

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I'd agree with guidosaurus on that point. And on the occasions you do smile big, don't be too forthcoming with it. Bring it out slowly.

I tend to find that if you THINK cheeky smile, you do cheeky smile, and this usually works the best for me. Generally, I only smirk. It's very rare that I smile big, which gives the occasions I do smile big even more impact.

Personally i think charm is a minstate:

to be charming one must:


1. Display the minstate that you know exactly what their thinking - you are one step ahead of them- you relate to them- you really understand them

2. You are unaffected by them - you have met girls or people like them before- they amuse you- they are cute to you- they are not a big deal- you can handle them

3. You are non-threatening - you are only playing - smile - non too serious - joke


Pretty easy really

I disagree, smiling http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lpO4SSeb ... plpp_video is the single most important tool I have in my body language. Smiling is very important when it comes courtship, especially with insecure women(most women). Most people are pessimists and thus not smiling especially with insecure women, they start thinking why is he looking at me like that.

Smiling makes most people comfortable, the problem is when most people smile they don't show confidence in their shoulders or stance, Confidence is in your shoulders, how you hold your head, posture, and stance http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL ... ature=plcp . I come across so many people who say don't smile.

Anyone who thinks smiling is beta has very little understanding of alpha on a chemical level, they probably haven't studied body language enough.

ONE OF THE KEY ALPHA BEHAVIORS IS COMFORT. Smiling is a sign of comfort and for this reason it is an Alpha behavior. The person having the most fun is the person who is considered the most attractive, and the most alpha because a big sign of alpha is having fun and not stressing, scientifically put high dopamine levels and low glucocorticoids http://showyourmind.wordpress.com/2012/ ... lpha-male/ .

Charm is built with nonthreatening http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pcVfSjBC ... plpp_video but confident behaviors, this means submissive and confident behaviors while maintaining strong eye contact. This also means adding more light touch such as to the upper arm. Touch helps build a connection unlike talking.

That said once I build attraction I tend to use contempt or smirk as you put it. This appears high value.

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You guys all have interesting points and I will definitely benefit from them. But what if you don't have an attractive smile or, one that's charming as the guys I've mentioned, you can smile with confidence even if you have an ugly smile but I don't think you can have that much of a charming smile

Ugly smile? Like crooked teeth? Smiling is the best looking face you have, I can guarantee it, unless you have a problem with your teeth. Which I understand if you have rough teeth it can make you very insecure but it is still a better looking face then a no smile face.

That's not true you look at guys like the character on Sex and Death 101 he is charming and always is smiling at women as soon as he makes eye contact, sometimes a smirk but when he talked to them he gave a smile. Or the character off of White Collar, his charm comes from his smile and confidence/presence comes from his posture and stance. Most charming characters on movies are guys who smile, it's very important to smile if you want to be charming. Don't listen to any of those guys they want you too be high value based off of not smiling, which according to science is incorrect, since a big sign of alpha is smiling.

When you look at characters in movies or the most charming guy you do not think of someone who isn't smiling, that defeats the purpose of charm. A lot of women consider me charming (I do have silver tongue as well though), it is because I smile a lot and have confidence. It isn't because I sit there with quiet body language and no smile, it's because I exude confidence, I am who I am with no regrets, I am proud of who I am, I smile, I have fun, and you can see this through my body language, this is how I gain presence.

I hate to sound rude or arrogant(which is unfortunately the exact tone) to those other guys but I doubt they have studied body language as heavily as I have, I doubt that they understand it on the level I do. You can go ahead and listen to those guys but it is horrible advice from a pick up, life, and body language stand point.

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