Hey Guys,

So I read an NLP book yesterday ‘NLP Techniques Anyone Can Use’ by ‘Roger R. W. Ellerton’ and there was a pretty good section in there that relates really well to having a clear perspective on how you come across during an interaction with a woman in both Night and Day game. Could be pretty useful if you are trying to fix your behaviours/body language etc during interactions.

Sorry it’s kind of long but I think it’s worth a look.

Enjoy.


[b]Gain A Different Perspective[/b]

Getting different perspectives on an event or situation provides a more balanced approach to your thinking and subsequent actions. In situations where there is little or no understanding or progress, perceptual positions can provide a way of developing new understandings and creating new choices. The ability to experience yourself, your actions and their possible impacts from different perspectives is an essential part of effective communication. These are the three perceptual positions:

• [b]First Position[/b]: Experiencing the situation from your perspective. What did you see, hear and feel? You think in terms of what is important to you, what you want to achieve.
• [b]Second Position[/b]: Stepping into the shoes of the other person and experiencing (seeing, hearing and feeling) the situation as if you were that person. To the best of your knowledge and ability, you take on the other person’s beliefs/values, attitude, personal history and physiology and think in terms of how the situation would be interpreted from his/her perspective. You’ve heard the expression: “Before criticizing someone, walk a mile in their shoes.”
• [b]Third Position[/b]: Standing back from the situation and experiencing it as if you were a detached observer. In your mind, you are able to see and hear yourself and the other person(s), as if watching strangers on TV. You act as an independent, resourceful third person and observe the interaction – the sequence of words, gestures, and expressions that occur in the communication – free of the evaluation or judgment. You think in terms of what observations or advice an independent, uninvolved person would provide to the person who looks and sounds like you.

Hope you guys took something from this,

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