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PostPosted: Thu Oct 08, 2009 10:01 pm 
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Hey guys, really need to figure this out once and for all.
I have worked a lot on my eye contact and body language but have heard mixed opinions from different ppl.
When talking to girls i hold eye contact almost constantly ( sometimes 1-3 minutes i guess before breaking it for a short while and then returning) i have been told that holding eye contact like that can freak girls out and come across a bit too strong.. is this true ?
The way i see it though is if she is holding the eye contact with me and only seldom breaking it, then surely im not creeping her out and she is digging it or feeling good vibes ?
Some clarification would be well appreciated, because holding eye contact during conversations has become a strong habit and it makes me feel more confident around them because i believe that what im doing most guys dont and that is what gives me the edge.


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 09, 2009 12:18 pm 
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Hey buddy..

I study psychology and let me tell you one thing.. the very first thing they teach you about succesful communication is EYE CONTACT! Your view is perfect man.. Holding eye contact and seldom looking away during a conversation is EXACTLY what gives you the edge over other guys!

I've heard shit about too much eye contact coming off creepy but it's just not true.. obviously if some girl is walking past and you keep staring at her you're gunna look like a creep! lol . .i mean if some girl did that to me i'd feel incredibly uncomfortable! :P

but during a conversation it's fine! You'll notice that the more eye contact you give a girl, the more she'll be engaged in what you have to say! It's incredibly important! and NO i dont believe what so ever that there can be TOO much eye contact when talking to someone.. :)

Keep up the eye contact.. it works like a charm :D

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i was waiting for the train one day in my work clothes after tafe (fluro top over my jumper and work pants- sort of peakocking) this chick walked past and the fluro must of caught her eye. she looked over to me i held eye contact until she had to turn her head to keep it and she broke it off. naturally i was checking out her ass as she walked away down the platform. she turned around and noticed me looking at her. i was thinkin "oops...". the train came and there were spare seats around but she sat next to me. we got to talking and i held eye contact for a while and she said i have nice eyes. number closed.
eye contact is important it shows you have confidence. but make sure you have a good energy. you dont wanna be some freak who stared down the girl like a murderer. smile a little =)

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3 minutes non stop is a bit crazy, I won't recomend it. You better do little breaks, for instance cut that 3 minutes non stop into:
30 seconds, 3 sec break, 30 seconds, few seconds break and so on or something like that, non stop is good only in very rare and special cases


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 Post subject: Re: Eye contact
PostPosted: Tue Dec 29, 2009 4:21 am 
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Hey guys, really need to figure this out once and for all.
I have worked a lot on my eye contact and body language but have heard mixed opinions from different ppl.
When talking to girls i hold eye contact almost constantly ( sometimes 1-3 minutes i guess before breaking it for a short while and then returning) i have been told that holding eye contact like that can freak girls out and come across a bit too strong.. is this true ?
The way i see it though is if she is holding the eye contact with me and only seldom breaking it, then surely im not creeping her out and she is digging it or feeling good vibes ?
Some clarification would be well appreciated, because holding eye contact during conversations has become a strong habit and it makes me feel more confident around them because i believe that what im doing most guys dont and that is what gives me the edge.

It matters what you do WHILE your making eye contact. Remember if she gives you eye contact, she may be interested. Do it like a deer in headlights, you'll creep her out. Give her a cocky little smile, she'll love it. Just the other day i was at the mall to shop and do some day game. As i was walking, this fairily cute girl stared me right in the eyes, well I started right back and gave her my patented cocky grin. Did it "freak" her out? no. She smiled back and said 'hey sexy", and kept walking. I wasn't really attracted to her so i didn't approach her but you get my point I hope.


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PostPosted: Tue Dec 29, 2009 2:56 pm 
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I tested it out for a whole at uni and it works like a CHEEEARM. Sometimes i pick a girl and work on her with just eye contact in the library and they eventually say hi(not all).

I have a few obvious questions... but i just like to hear what other people say just to solidify my thoughts.

so there is a girl i flirt with every now and then just for fun, this was the first time ive been around knowing anything about PUA, so i decided to hold a stare to see what would happen. so i looked at her as i slowly walked passed her, eyes looking unimpressed at the world and a slight smile. she stared back with a smile too. This went on for no less than 15 seconds, i started the stare early and she wasnt walking anywhere lol. eventually i had to look away because she was already behind me.

so just to be sure.... thats a big f****** green light right?

question, what does that say about dominance? let me remind you guys, this was a long ass stare


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PostPosted: Tue Dec 29, 2009 8:01 pm 
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You want to show her you are interested but not too interested. Eye contact is good and being able to hold eye contact lets a girl know that you are confident. If someone doesn't hold eye contact the girl might think they can't and therefore assume he is shy which lowers his value.

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Does it matter what kind of face you have if you don't want to creep them out with eye contact? For example I have a very serious face, doesn't matter if I smile or not I still look serious.


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3 minute eye contact its crazy lol

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Good rule of thumb is 60-80% eye contact early in a conversation. So every 3-5 seconds glance away for a moment than back. If you stare to long you will come across as creepy without a strong attraction already present. Everyone loves to be paid attention to, so you want to focus more and more on them as the conversation gains more value. As the conversation deepens you can most definitely stare quite a bit harder at them. I am all about eye contact but as someone said body language during eye contact is a huge addition to any eye contact(smile, head placement, neck, wrists, feet, torso). Early in a conversation you give solid eye contact but 3 minutes is seriously creepy. It is good to pay full attention to her but you can do that without staring into her eyes, it makes her nervous at a certain point. Environment should always be taken into consideration. That said when I have been to a strip club I have looked a girl in the eyes rather than anywhere else and it was more shameful for them so they looked away, so it can work against you if you over use it just like anything else.


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