Over the last month I have uped my game by 300% simply by studying body language and keeping my own body language how it should be, when i initialy talk to a girl I use light hand gestures to help get what im saying to her accross, by looking and hearing i am saying their attention is more focussed to you and is unlikey for their eyes and attention to wander off.
Next is keno, for all you gamers out there. by being my cocky-funny self i get alot of hitting on the shoulder or poking in my side.
when a girl initialy hits or pokes me, I usually say "Hey hands still lady" or "hey dont dirty my shirt with youre grubby hands" or something along those lines but it all depends on the type of person you percieve them as. sometimes when i say "hey dont dirty my shirt with those grubby hand" they go for it again or wipe their hands all over my shirt, which i consider a BIG IOI.
I always look out for the playing with hair or scratching of the back of her hands etc.
When I have a girl sitting with me, I show her a little interest by leaning foward to talk to her, once the conversation is rolling i will lean back and get comfortable, usually the girl will have to lean into me to talk to me.
for example i have been seeing an extreemly difficult girl who gives all the IOIs and then at the end of the night for some reason hesitates for a kiss or things of that sort. but the other night when we were sitting at the bar she sat in her chair sideways facing away from me, I thought "you litte bitch!!" she trys very hard to not show me any IOIs but within 5 mins shes facing me leaning into me giving IOIs left right and centre, soaking in every word i am saying laughing ang carrying on.
I find reading body language in a female is quite easy and becomes second nature when you put it into use every moment possible, i always had trouble at first, holding a conversation and trying to figure out what her body language means at the same time, but now i just know.
body position is a big deal, if her feet or legs are facing you, you have her attention, if she is leaning in also you most definately have her attention, If you can get constant eye contact from her durng conversation, dont abuse it, I find if she is in conversation with you and you look away occaisionally for a period of time they will be more motivated to gain youre acceptance in conversation, especialy if you are sitting at a table in a quiet bar and she is out of reach from keno.
When at any stage you have escalated youre keno to hugging or kissing you will find if they are comfortable with you they will have their body in porpotion with youres, if they are pressed up against you from top to bottom with their head on youre chest if they are shorter, or shoulder if the same height or taller (facing outward from youre neck in most cases).
when kissing or going in for the kiss the same body position as hugging, but if they want to kiss you they will look up at you with their chin on youre chest if shorter. and if the same height or taller they will position their head inwards toward youre neck.
every week I find myself concentrating on one part of the game, my first was getting rid of AA, the next was openers, im not a fan of canned openers but still struggle a little to get the right words out in an opener at times. and this week was holding conversation and comfort building which includes body language and perception of personality and judge of character.
if you are new or bad at using body language as a tool, or you have any tips for myself please drop me a comment, I probably left a few key points out so please do
