Hi Guys,

I have read about BL from a book by Alan Pease. It is a pretty good book BTW. 1 week back, I was on a date with a girl. It was a disaster , but, I couldn't figure out a few things from her BL. I thought, i am quite good at it. Obviously, I was running the routines such as The Cube, telling her about BL and other DHV stories just to keep the convo flowing. She was quite and cautious, I could see that. What I could not understand is that, she was smiling at me once or twice without any reason. Either, I was looking like chump which I don't think so or I don't know. When I asked her "what you laughing at (me:smiling)?" she said just random thoughts. Any ideas guys? May be she is thinking that I have really bad game or something


Please do let me know, if this happened with you guys.

Thanks.

Maybe she felt like you were trying too hard to impress her?

May be you are right! i was trying too hard to keep the conversation going. I think secret to pickup is to let go of the outcome.

Hey mate,

Obviously, I wasn't there, but a few observations from what you've said.
Building off XxBAMFxX, it sounds like you were forcing an exchange as opposed to letting it happen. Subsequently, the 'conversation' runs the risk of turning into a lecture: let her to the talking! You may find more success by asking broad questions, listening, asking linked questions with what you've heard, commenting lightly on the material, and seeing what happens.

I think you weren't really letting her have any of the conversation at hand. She seem to be doing more listening than talking.

Try focusing on what went wrong, rather than what the smiling meant. I could mean all kinds of things in different contexts. She could be: giving you an IOI, secretly chuckling about at how much you were talking. I personally avoid dates like the plague. You get a situation where there is a lot of anti-productive ritual.