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Body Language Part 2

Alright back again with the second installment on body language. If you have been reading my first post on body language, i would expect you are starting to become more comfortable with yourself and starting to get noticed by those around you. Im not gonna waste any time here and get right into it, however i suggest you read my first installment if you havent already.

Keys to improving your body language. (must all be used... not just some)

1) Dont fidget/play with things. If you are standing at a bar or sitting down having drinks, you always want to be aware of your hands and what they are doing. If you are doing things like picking your nails, tapping your fingers on the table, playing with your straw, it will make you appear very nervous and will cause the girl to feel nervous as well.
2) Once isolated, lean back in your chair. Assume a body position similar to having sat around all day watching tv. Fill the space you are in by using the armrests to prop your arms up, but never exceed 90 degrees between your arm and your torso, it just looks overdone and awkward.
3) When isolated keep make sure you are facing the center of the bar. Doing this will serve two purposes, girls will see you talking to your target leading to increased social value, it will create a jealousy plotline to your target if she sees your eyes occasionally wandering to lock eyes with another girl. This being said you should
4)Keep feet spaced about 2 to 3 feet wide. This allows you to take up more space. Showing that you own your own space is a key way to demonstrate value to everyone in the bar.
5) Dont laugh at your own jokes. Laughing at your own jokes shows a lack of confidence. Its a way of being like "cmon laugh with me". If you are able to make a joke that the girl laughs at and you dont laugh it makes her think two things. One, you are a funny guy and that joke funny jokes are common from you. Two, it exhudes confidence in that you know your jokes are funny, you dont have to laugh at them as well to let them know its a joke.
6) Lean on things. Walls, bar, tables, chairs, anything you can think of. Even if sometimes it makes you feel less comfortable it can actually improve your body language. Look up pictures of James Dean as an example of great leaning body language.

Ways you can practice

1) Next time you are in field, become aware of all of your movements, in particular your hands. If you find yourself playing with something just throw it away. Hold your hands open allow them to lay comforably on the armrests. If you are sitting at a table dont rests your hands on the table, it will appear as if you are leaning in.
2) Look at yourself in the mirror to get an idea of how wide you should space your legs. Basically you wanna space them as far as you can untill it starts looking like you are trying to perform the splits. Give it a shot, and then integrate all of the other tips as well you will definately notice the difference.

anyone have any suggestions on how i could improve my articles I really want to make them the most effective they can be thanks in advance!

I've recently started to correct my posture ie. Sitting up straight among friends to appear alert and active and I've noticed it does direct more attention to me.

It can get pretty uncomfortable after a while but I'm bearing with it.

When I'm up a female friends house who I want to turn into a lover (it's hard work but I've Been successfully bringing up a lot of innuendo and getting the two of us turned on but this girl is a bit fussy about casual sex so I'm going to have to get her extremely comfortable with me.

So should I keep with the sraight back or sink into her couch?

Also we smoke a lot of weed together so it's easy for us to just sink into silence.

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I think this is one of my biggest downfalls and weaknesses. Body Language. This has been pretty insightful and I will work on that. Thanks!

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@debiruman665
glad to hear you have been seeing feedback this is a part of game that i would say 90% of aspiring PUA's overlook and it IS the most critical aspect to communicating high value.

While you are standing yes never slouch forward or lean in, and while sitting you want to make yourself as comfortable as possible so yes lean back relax, the image you want to achieve at all times is "make no comprimises for anyone in your surroundings". This means own the space you are in, do not limit the space you take up based on those around you.. i.e sitting beside someone, be comfortable with going shoulder to shoulder, leg to leg with them. If you close your posture it will show low value in taht you are not confident enough to make yourself comfortable with other people infringing on your area.

The best way to describe how to sit with a girl around is as if you are lounging around on a sunday afternoon watching tv by yourself. How would you sit? you would be as comfortable as you could without compromise. Any more questions ill be glad to answer happy gaming

@Brandonjg
Awesome! glad to hear it ill be releasing more articles in the near future on body language so stay tuned!

Great article. Maybe add some stuff about eye contact, but you've hit alot of great points. However, there is one point you mentioned that I dont fully agree with: I believe, while you shouldnt laugh at your own jokes, you should at least smile or smirk, not at the joke itself, but at the fact that people are laughing. It just seems awkward to sit there with a blank look as others are enjoying your company. However, I could just be misreading your post.

Good luck.

@GRKiller

Thanks so much for the comments! regarding the eye contact this is actually the second installment to my articles on body language, eye contact is covered in the first part here master-your-body-language-part-1-speaker-vt36692.html
Yea i do see your point for the laughing at your own jokes, i should have gone into more detail, i mean if you are makign jokes with your friends your already going to be smiling and smirking just due to the relaxed SPAM you are in. Of course for those of you reading out there right now, never make a joke and stand there like Steven Seagal about to break someones neck have your attitude reflect the mood of the group you are in but always control the frame of the interactions you are in at hte same time!

Hey Guys. I have this conflict with myself. What should i do to get rapport?? I read about being(looking) confident wherever i am but also about mirroring her body language. So if her body is in a closed negative posture shall i mirror her ?? Any comments??

When they talk about mirroring, its generally so that you dont come into set with too or too little energy. You always want your energy to be a little but (not too much) higher than their energy when you enter a set. If its too low, you are bringing them down, if its too high, you are crazy to them.

However in regards to body language, if the girl you are in set with has a closed negative posture it could be due to anything from a neg you used hitting too hard or shes having a bad day. Keep an open positive happy body language and naturally SHE should mirror YOUR body language if done properly.

Cheers Speaker, good points. I'm pretty well read up on body langauge and would like to share some ideas at a later date.

For now though, I'm wondering if you know more about the walk, are there are references out there, anything useful and worth reading?

I think my body language has improved alot, my weakness is my eye contact still, but since reading about EAC (eye accessing cues). i'm taking an interest in looking into people's eyes more and it is an important part of what we're doing here, so I'm continuing to improve and become more comfortable with it.

I also find that when I'm standing on the train, I don't always know what to do with my hands, leave them at the side? Hold on to the pole? put one in my pocket (but not too deep)? I always avoid crossing my arms, never do that anymore unless I'm freezing, I try to occupy as much space as I can and not look down, look at the horizon, smile, make slow movements, take longer strides when walking but not walk too fast.

Hey man thanks for the props, seems like you know what you are talking about regarding body language. While on the train i would hold the pole but grab it at around head height or higher... wihle doing this do not be facing the pole, make it beside you or slightly behind which will also assist in opening your posture up..this will allow you to naturally occupy more space and open up your chest. While doign tihs however remember to keep your legs spaced a bit more than shoulder width apart and lean either left right or back never forward! hope this helped