Hey guys. I've seen a lot of stuff on this forum regarding "no fap" and all that other stuff. Personally, I don't believe in that, but I also don't believe you should fap once a day every day if you arent getting laid either...

See, here's where my problem lies. Last night, I masturbated to some porn. Last night marked a week without masturbating. I try and go as long as can (Typically from 5 days to a week) without jacking it so that I am more energized and more excited to go out and meet women. I find that my outlook and mood also improves quite a bit. I have gone 3 weeks before trying to do the 90 day challenge last year, and I will probably never try that again. Blueballs REALLY fucking hurts, and frankly, that's why I try not to go too long without cleaning the pipes...

I looked at a lot of stuff on youbrainonporn.com about a year ago. I guess my dilemma lies with the fact that I have a lot of porn saved on my computer, and now, I don't know whether to keep it, or delete it all...

I'm afraid I'm at a crossroads here... And I don't know what to do....

I guess these are my choices.

Option #1: Delete every bit of porn and never use porn to jack it to ever again.

Option #2: Delete none of the porn, and just go about my daily routine of masturbating only one day of the week while still allowing myself to use porn.

Option #3: Delete ALMOST every film. Keeping only a few close to heart essentials.


I know that porn is generally bad, but masturbation isnt. The problem is that in todays society that almost always go hand in hand. (no pun intended)

The whole reason I typed this post is because I'm afraid that there might be some chance that I'm fucking up my young brain, even if I just spank it to porn once a week. I've come a long way from being a horny little high schooler who use to crank'em out to porn 5-7 times a week.

Also, one last thought. Even if I COMPLETELY quit porn, and just used pics of girls on my facebook to spunk out loads to once a week, that is STILL technically considered porn to some. Even if your thought process is sexually agressive, and you have porn like fantasies that you jack off to even without porn, I guess it's STILL considered porn use... FML

It's like I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't... I can't jack off to rainbows and unicorns, guys. I need my sexually aggressive fantasies.

I know this was a long post, but please, if you have any wisdom or experience in this area, lend me a hand. I could really use some advice so that I know where to go from here. Thank you.

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"Take your last chance. It's not the end..."

You should delete all the porn you have saved at least make it tougher for you to access. dont rub it out to facebook pictures thats not cool. imagine a guy jacking off to your moms facebook pic....
do something to take your mind off jerkin your gerkin, workout til you can barely get up. or use beating it as a reward system. lets say you walked up to a HB gamed and number closed. You can go home and "Celebrate".

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"Practice makes perfect."

I eat well and exercise everyday. I don't know what to masturbate to then...

I guess this is where I'm stuck, ya know?

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"Take your last chance. It's not the end..."

when you feel like beating it think about something that would kill your boner. i meant think about something that would make you barf. if that does'nt work then just leave your house and go for a walk to clear your head.

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"Practice makes perfect."

Thats all VERY do-able as I have done this many times in the past. However, i am curious about something...

What is the goal and/or end result that I am hoping to achieve by doing this?

Are you honestly suggesting that i never masturbate again until the next time I get laid?

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"Take your last chance. It's not the end..."

Your goal is to whack it less.
If you're up for a challenge you can do that.
Vagina and blow jobs are way better that your hand

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"Practice makes perfect."

This is a battle almost all of us fight so don't feel strange with this.

I myself deal with the same dilemma, but I set my mind to a plan. I choose to ONLY jerk it on monday nights. I choose monday for a reason. Throughout the work week when its harder to find women, my drive is decent. However, by Friday/Saturday I've got an incredible drive, and I try so much harder. I include Sunday in my weekend sarges, so I exclude sunday from a "jerk it" day.

HOWEVER,

"King Vanness" says if you talk to an HB you can go home and 'celebrate'

I agree. One of the greatest readings i've done for pick up is on the subject of dog training. I realize its sexist, but before anything its true primal social dynamics. Any dog trainer will tell you that your best bet is to reward an animal for its good behavior, rather than discipline it for its bad. While many of us use this on women in the field, you should also use it on yourself. If you spent the last few days without opening sets, or pushing limits, you'd BETTER NOT beat off. BUT, if you did your homework and put in the effort, then fine, you earned a chance to get off.

Find the process that is most beneficial to your pick up, learn to transmute your sexual energy, and just have a little discipline and i promise you will see things turn around.

thank you both for your contributions. I already kinda figured that I had a plan. In my original post I did say that I have begun to jack it only once a week from now on.

I guess that's just what I'll have to do. Idk what I'll do about my porn or my sexual fantasies quite yet...

The porn could go. I'm confident of that, but the fantasies... Well... I think it's safe to say that ship has already sailed...

No problem though, I guess.

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"Take your last chance. It's not the end..."

i never had the chance to jack it....i went on a 2 ear drought with no type of release at all(in college i ahd a roomate who was a nerd so was always there, and at home i have a big family and my room is the game room) so i never could and it was horrible untill i found out i could keep my mind occupied 100000 different ways......find a new hobby, workout more, meditate...for me i have the stupid goal to be as close to bruce wayne as possible so i work otu meditate do yoga and read alot...you don't have to have a stupid goal like me but still set a goal....and if you ever have that time when you feel u HAVE to do it then look at it as a weakness and overcome that weakness.......tell yourself once a week then once a month then so o and so one......

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie