Not quite sure where to go with this so any input welcome.

I've been into MMA for years, so start submission grappling in about 2002, done a little bit of thai boxing & boxing here and there, but not hardcore, I've done some sparring but not loads. Also trained with a UFC fighter briefly.

So in theory all that sounds pretty good in terms of a DHV but:

1) I really don't feel comfortable portraying myself as a tough guy, because I'm not. Yes I can handle myself, but I've met loads of guys tougher than me.

2) I've got injured recently and am making a slow comeback, but won't be grappling for awhile, probably light striking quite soon.


So if hobbies come up in conversation, how should I handle this? Should I even mention an injury at all? (I definitely won't go into specifics on it because it was a major one with spinal fusion!)

hey there,

I've been boxing for 2 years now, I'm pretty skinny but my muscle definitions are clearly there.

I never tell any girl or anyone (only my friends) that I do any sort of martial arts, because it draws the attention of you as being the tough guy and if you're at parties I keep it as a surprise if anyone wants to fight me.

As far as I go whenever someone ask my hobbies i say everything else except my martial art skills

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Hiya! I have been doing martial arts (Hung Gar Kung Fu) intensly for last 6 years. Went to few K1 competitions and also teach kids class several times a month. However when it comes to parading my skills in front of women, I do not. Simply because martial artist code of conduct is way above The Game. Also to protect myself and a good night out from assholes who want to 'test' me. I realise that it is much more difficult to hide when you have big muscles and broken face, which I dont, nor big muscles. I tend to reveal it to the girls on our first night or even later into the relationship.

Thanks for your input guys. No offence, but have you guys studied a lot about game? The whole point is to display attractive qualities, not hide them!

Thus communicating this is certainly something I'd like to do, but in a very non bragging way and without going into detail about my aforementioned injury.

Maybe I've chosen the wrong forum for this....

you can say it when you are in a day 2 , but not in the club assholes who think they are tough are gonna try to start something and you know that's a cockblock

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i mention it. but dont show off. everything in moderation. i say ive been training for a while and want to start competing. makes you look like you can protect yourself and her (attraction switch) and shows dedication and drive / ambition to be able to get that far. also helps to have another hooby such as art that balances it out so you dont look like a thug

I don't like for people to know that I practice, except for the people I practice with in the dojo. Most of them understand that it's about character development, strengthening mental and emotional balance, and so on. Like most things that require years of training, people on the outside never understand the effort you put in to master the skills, so no one is ever going to appreciate it for what it is-- and like Stainless said-- why bother advertising for the dumbasses that feel obligated to test the so-called 'martial artist'?

If you seriously do martial arts, then you don't really ever need to bring it up. You're going to have more balance and grace than most people already, and you'll be physically fit. The results speak for themselves.

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No offense intended to you niknakkkk, but it sounds like you came here wanting/expecting one answer, and you got one that didn't make you happy. I don't know where you are from, but where I live, there are countless tools wearing tapout, affliction, etc. that walk around talking about how they are "cage fighters" and do MMA, and it never comes across well.
No, you should not bring it up. If it is something you are passionate about, it will eventually come out. If you want bring a girl to your gym after dating for a bit to show her what you do, that would be a good way to go about it as well.
Btw, I have been doing BJJ for over ten years, boxing over twelve, MMA for around 7, and began wrestling since before I can remember. I live in the hometown of TeamQuest, and have trained with probably half a dozen professional UFC fighters. You might recognize some of the guys from here: Randy Couture, Matt Lindland, Evan Tanner (RIP), Matt Horwich and we had Wanderlei Silva at my old gym but I missed him. I don't wear any "fight gear" like Tapout or similar because it looks like those guys are trying too hard. If you really are a good fighter and have the confidence that comes with it, you don't need to have a huge sign on your forehead proclaiming it.
It sounds like you are in the beginning stages of learning PUA, which is totally okay, we all have to start somewhere. The end result, for me at least, was getting to a place where I can just be a naturally confident, funny guy. My attractive lifestyle always comes out eventually, but the way I carry myself shows it exists without even saying it.
Good luck bro

I train an unique martial art (it's local;)) for about 3-6 hours a week in the dojo, from time to time I take over a training. When new people come in I show them around and teach them the basics that sort of thing.


Here's what I do, I tell a girl I teach self defense to children and women.
Which well....isn't a lie.
It's just a more subtle way of saying you are in to fighting.
On top of that you get awarded the 'Leader of Men'-medallion as well.

Now in the club this often leads to 2 situations:
a) Oh cool, can you show me something?
Just act like you didn't hear what they say and go for the takedown while she is repeating herself:p
b) Wow, that's awesome....I'm a gymnast (or whatever) and do teaching too!
She's trying to find some common ground to talk about....
....yeah teaching is so rewarding (Conversation often goes dull though, havent found a solution for that)

When a girl is over at your place or whatever, you could just bring your ground game, assuming you have any Just keep things funny and don't get too touchy from the start.

I train a lot and well it's one of the few things in life I can really be passionate about. I feel no need to hide it. From time to time I find myself in a position where a girl wants to go running with me or escort me on her bike while I'm doing my roadwork. Sure you aren't at your prettiest with a face as red as a tomato, sweat dripping down your balls, but it's running what did she expect?

And well if a girl wants to go with you well:p then you basically have this one in the bag already:lol:

Haven't read anything but the top comment this time;) Don't hate me for it.

Yeah you can talk about it, but make sure you do it the right way. If you do it in a way of "I'm telling you this because it's a DHV, and I hope it will make you like me more" then obviously she's gonna notice, and it's gonna come across as try hard. If you talk about it as if it's no big deal, just another one of your hobbies and interests, then it's fine.