| FACT: I hate pursuing women and that outside appearance is not enough is the girl is dumb or if I don't "LOVE" her face (I'm a face and ass guy).
As a result, I've decided
1- cultivate the gay/metrosexual (a little like style) type with good fashion sense who can see what's wrong in their outfits. I also look and sound russian when I talk english (even though I'm french from France).
2- learn all I can about women. I read magazines, books about makeup, I know how to pose them, find their complexes. I can look at them straight in the eyes no matter what they are wearing (cold guy stuff) and can read their minds sometimes.
3- to travel a lot (Montreal, Paris, NYC, Toronto, San Francisco)
4- to go shoot nightlife in clubs whenever I'm away (I can walk in any clubs of California without having to wait)
5-to build a portfolio of photos of models so good that women now add me on Facebook.
However I refuse to use the fact that I have son whom I have shared custody of.
With time passing by and more and more good photos in my portfolio, women will naturally come to me. Also, when I photograph them in studio or outside (in lingerie sometimes),
- I can touch them (appropriately),
- create rapport (I have good fashion sense) and tell them that I'm used to seeing a lot of good looking women.
- when I asked them to be more seductive, I always tell her that this would not work on me, if they tried a little better, well maybe.
- when reviewing the photos, I give my opinion on the photo and the pose, NOT on her.
- Ask them to stay while you edit the photo in photoshop, each spot removal, each adjustment feels like a neg by itself.
My angle is that I want the women feel I love ALL women, that they feel good about them when looking at them (sexy, strong...), that their friends want to shoot with me. I just want them to feel that I have REALLY HIGH standards (my lifestyle is congruent with that). My game is based on integrity and honesty. I aim for quality over quantity and will NEVER jeopardize my reputation (once I'll have photographed hundred of girls I will not need to go after them anyway).
On a closing note, if you want to have a GOOD reputation professionally, you CAN'T ASK her on a date on a first shoot, you can't Kiss close except if she starts touching you back (and then you say "oh I did not know we were on a date..."). You can't be seen as a player or a PUA because the world of photographers is really small and reputations is everything They have to feel you do them a favor of asking them out.
That said, if I'm here, it's also because I can't seem to have those casual relationships I am looking for. I have an amazing son and don't need a second mother for him so a serious relationship is out of the question for now. Fucking random girls does not interest me, I like classy and intelligent women (even if they're 19-20) who WANT a casual relationship too.
Ask me to PM you my website (so that you see it's true) and also if you're in MONTREAL. I'll update on my travels soon.
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