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I still think this kid should study more and fantasize less. He shouldn't be plucking ideas from the sky - he should be plucking them from his school books! Reading and thinking about PUA just increases his horny kid urgency which distracts his mind from studying.
I am sharing my prospective with you from a 'parenthood' and 'guardianship' point of you. In principle, I agree with you. A high school kid has a whole life ahead of him and academic curiosity/success stands to only expand his future, not limit it. Growing up. my best friend's mom would drive us around and when ever she saw some bum or low level worker, point the guy out and tell us, "See boys? How much do you want to bet that he was a F student?"
However, there's this thing . . . 'hormones'. Telling a 16 year old kid to fantasize less about chicks, their tits, vagina, and fucking is like telling a kangaroo to stop jumping. It's going to happen one way or another. You can continue to tell him to stop but. . . it's not really a choice is it? This is like a stream that is flooding your garden. Sure, you could try to push the water back the water but that won't ever work. Why not just go with it, let the stream flow, but divert it the flow to a path that will be least harmful and might do some good?
Goal setting, planning, strategizing, and executing tasks are not easy things to follow. And without a compelling goal, I doubt the average 16 year old will ever try this out. Achieving success reduces useless fantasies. You don't sit there thinking up 1,000's of different fantasies because you know exactly what to do, what to expect, with quantifiable progress. People fantasize because their real life cannot provide the answers. Lots of guys begin their journals with a "PU perspective" but as they get going, almost always tend to expand their plans to encompass other aspects of their lives, including their academic lives.
Take a look at this journal:
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If you don't want to read the whole thing, read the first few pages and the last few. The progress. . . it's amazing. . .