I am 24 and I have a son that I take care of, his mother isn't around anymore. This means I need to spend a lot of time at home with him. I love it and its great being a father, but I feel like I am wasting so much time. I end up spending a lot of time watching cartoons with him(tons of sitting which really depresses me), and going to the park with him.

I still manage to go out during nights when he sleeps, and I go to the gym a few times a week. The problem isn't making time to go to bars or clubs, but its to do attractive hobbies.

1. I already go to the gym, and planning to do yoga or zumba class there.

2. What is an attractive hobby you can do from home.

3. What is an attractive hobby I can do with a child, I was thinking taking him to museums, but that isn't a everyday type thing I could go to all the museums and aquariums in a week.

I am a single dad too.

What I can say about women and being a single dad is this…

Do whatever you can, whenever you can and don't try and form a rigid schedule for yourself. It is fucking HARD being a single parent.

It is even harder if you are trying to juggle bringing a woman (or more) into your life.

Now, there are SOME girls who will not give you the time of day the second they find out you have a son. DO NOT let them discourage you. They undoubtedly will. I felt so god damn worthless for so many years because of the rejection I received JUST BECAUSE I have a child that I take care of.

However, there is a FLIP SIDE to this situation.

Being a good dad, and being able to DEMONSTRATE that without outright bragging about it, or trying to impress a girl is a HUGE DHV for a lot of girls.

I am going to go out on a limb and say you can almost eliminate 50% of the women out there who will not give you the time of day if you have a kid. Some girls don't want kids at all, others do not want a partner with a child already even though they want one, and others don't want any perceived drama that would come from another woman being in your life, regardless of how long you have not been in a relationship.

There is nothing you can do about that 50% so do not let it bother you if you get rejected. The number may be less than 50% but for simplicity here I will go with that number. The older women are, the less likely they are to reject a man who has kids.

If you are out trying to get laid, you don't need to talk about the kids with a girl. I've gotten to know a few girls well and had sex before they ever knew I had a kid. They were not girls I had chosen for a LTR though.

If you are looking for MORE than a FWB, or a lay — then when you talk about your children you do nothing but demonstrate CONFIDENCE, and when you talk about the things you do with your son, the challenges you face, the fun you have, etc. You are sending STRONG DHV vibes to a girl who is receptive to that.

I've been told how hot it is that I am a good dad and care about my kids, and have fought for them, etc on so many occasions, that it does not phase me one bit when a girl snubs me after finding out I have kids.

Women with kids go through the same shit from guys who don't want kids in their life either.

As for things to do? If your son is young enough take him anywhere other hot MILFs are taking THEIR kids to play. Or even in public, I can't tell you how much a cute kid can help you break the ice with a hottie. The hotties will open themselves up for you when they come over to say hi to your son!!!

I am in your situation as well as being active duty military working 13 hour mid shifts its hard to get out to the bars..... what i suggest and has worked for me is to find yourself a. sitter... summer time means lots of hs kids looking for money... it'll give you time to get out. With my kids I've found success with women while at parades, the zoo, the movies, the pool, hell even the grocery store ... Don't give up hope and as far as a hobby at home goes learn an instrument, your kid won't care how bad you are! and women love it ... i also work on the bike and car alot and my daughter helps, I've had many conversations with women who walk by and its a huge dhv when they see you involving your kid.

best of luck!

I stand for that. I don't have any kids (that I known of lol) and used to borrow my friends kids just to do exactly that.

Dude a kid is perfect for day game. Single mothers at the park is an example. Single fathers are a rarity. I find myself being the only man or at least the only single one around. Even today I wasn't looking for attention pushing my son on the swing. All the kids at the park started talking to me.

Stepping up to raise your kid is big time DHV.

Agreed. My 2 year old son is a pimp and helps me open up the ladies all the time. My day game sucks but when my little wingman is with me, it helps a ton.

-peace-

this may be a perk that comes with being a single dad, however i dont think that anyone should use their spouse as a pimping tool. i too remember when me and my ex were together, taking my son to the park or kids days seriously got the attention of the HB's. now that the situations different seeing that im no longer with his mother and she fully abandoned him (Shes getting married next weekend BTW) im just thinking how on earth am i going to ever meet girls when i have custody of him? im weary about letting any female near him, hes already had one let him down if you get what i mean.

I understand where you are coming from. You need to find a babysitter you can trust. I don't bring girls around the house who I am thinking would be a bad example for my kids to see me with!

However, I am a full time dad now myself and you do have to find a way to balance it all together. Granted my daughter is a teenager now and my son is 2 so that helps some when I have him.

However, I have no place to "pull" a girl I've just met to my house either! This is a major reason why I am not going out for night game anymore. Also a reason that one girl I laid a couple weeks ago we ended up in the back of her in a public parking lot!

So, don't stop yourself from hittin' some ass — just think of it as a challenge. And don't really feel bad about using your kid as a pawn to get some HB interested in you! Shit, mystery runs around like an ass clown in a furry top hat and what not, so no reason you can't show DHV to the ladies by being a good dad!

Just last weekend my son opened up a PAIR of HB9s in the fucking grocery store all on his own (after I had to chase him down when he ran off). If I wasn't there with some other girl I am hanging out with, I would have walked away with at least one of the girl's numbers for SURE!