Quick background. I went on two dates with this girl and it didn't work out. She said she felt we were more like friends. I said "ok" and kept my distance from her. In the weeks after that, she kept acting like she was still attracted, but since she just wanted to be friends, I moved on.

Jump to about a week ago. She found out I was looking for a new place to live. Apparently two of her roommates are moving out so two rooms are open (they are 4 girls living in a 4 bedroom house. two girls moving out and two are staying). she asked me if I was interested in looking at her place. I said I'd like to take a look. I figured she would be a great pivot and I already get along with her so it'd be better than living with random people. I also already know the other girl that's staying at the house even better.

I was supposed to take a look at the place this weekend but then she texts me that her roommate isn't happy about the new person that they found for one of the two available rooms. Apparently the roommate isn't happy having a guy in the house so she said they were now only looking for girls. I figured that made sense so I said cool.

As I was looking for other places this week and I end up coming across their ad on craigslist listing the one remaining room. In the ad, it said male or female roommate wanted. This really annoyed me. Why would she tell me that they were only looking for a female and then list an ad the next day asking for male or female.

What confuses me is she wants to hang out with me and is always the one to make plans with me (we're actually pretty good friends now and have been hanging out after I kept my distance for a while). Why would she want to hang out with me and then lie to me so that she doesn't have to live with me?

Simple a girl does not want to live with someone they just started dating that's a big step in a relationship and should not be done right away. If something goes wrong in your relationship you would have to move out and go through the process again. It shows that she is still interested in you. She was not truthful about it though (hence the ad) so call her out on it and make her admit her true intentions.

Thanks for the response, Recast. We're not actually in a relationship though. She told me that she "just wants to be friends" after our 2nd date. I accepted it, kept my distance for a couple of weeks, and moved on. After we had time off from each other, she reinitiated contact and we have been hanging out (with both of us being clear that we're just friends). That's when she asked me if I was interested in looking at her place.

1. She seems like a C*nt. She obviously lied to you, that doesn't seem very friendly. Seriously you should call her out on it, and then say you don't need friends like that, its dlv for you to let people walk over you like that.

2. Good screw that why would you want to live thier, shoulds like you still want her. Find some guys to live with, some liars actually have pua's find apartments together. Imagine having a roomate who is your wingman.

3. Obviously you creep her out, no offense. But you give off a needy vibe. You got put in the friend zone, you want to live with her, and she is stressing you out.
Sounds like oneitits

Yeah pretty bitch move.
I'll keep that in the back of my mind.
I never asked to live with her. She asked me, on more than one occasion, to live with her. The first time I declined, the second time I said 'I'll take a look.' It's not oneitis; I'm dating another girl at the moment, which is why I mentioned in my original post that this girl and I both agreed that we're just friends. No doubt I wanted to live with her, but only to expand my social circle and gain a pivot. You're misinterpreting something here.

Sorry, I did not mean you were already in a relationship, I mean her actions made it possible for her to still have a relationship with you. The way she is going about it is all wrong though, so at least call her out on it and see where she goes from there.[/quote]